Thursday, 17 July 2008
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Poll: Who Rules Your MySpace Top 8?
By Miss Double Shot
Okay, MySpace/Facebook/social networking site members, so your Top 8 may be made up of your family and friends, but where does your significant other go? When I was on the site, my sister was always my #1 and I was hers, too . . . it was non-negotiable.
Have you ever heard about *~drama~* among 'net users because of a significant other's Top 8 placement?
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I always figured that if you cared about where you were placed in someone else's top 8 then you are lacking in self-esteem and confidence in your friendship/relationship.
Well I never had any top 8 drama because I don't use myspace, but I did have a little drama because on facebook it says I'm married to my gay friend who lives in Iowa and my last boyfriend was like "I want it to say that we're in a relationship" but I was like "I am not divorcing my husband and I don't want my relationship status published on facebook."
Well I am kind of ticked that my boyfriend has a top 37 and I am nowhere on it. TOM is on his top 37, but I, his girlfriend of two and a half years, am nowhere to be found.
My top 8 has always been done when someone has added me as a friend.
I do not think it will bothered me where I was on her list whether this is Facebook, Myspace etc
What about Xanga - doubt Xanga and the other sites using the format of Xanga, will have the featured added in the near future.
that's stupid. if you get all irate over where you are in someone's top 8 or top 80, it just shows that you have no life and that you're probably cyber dating. oh, and that you're probably along the lines of 14 and psycho.
although i use myspace, just to keep in touch with friends that go to school out of town/state, or friends that moved to a different country, i hate it. with a passion. it causes so much unnecessary drama and trouble. (f.y.i. if you get mad over text, i hope darwin bites you in the ass and soon.)
the guy i'm currently seeing right now put me on his top 28. i just find it kind of funny because he has friends he's known forever who bug him about being on his top and yet...they aren't there. i keep everything that could potentially piss everyone off for no reason (top friends, comments, etc) hidden. it keeps everything so much more simpler that way.
@LongDistanceDread - hahaha, tom over his girlfriend? top 37? 2+ years? that totally doesn't make sense. what gives?
The whole system of ranking friends and publishing it on a website, IMO, is just not good. When I use a networking site I try to ignore these functions. It's not good for people to compete for position with each other that way. Of course it creates drama - these kinds of things could really hurt. However, if you are going to do it, a serious relationship should be right at the top.
It's funny how people use those facebook relationship statuses - especially all the joke or fake marriages (usually not even to someone of the same orientation), lol. Then other people don't know what to make of it.
I agree with mrcolorful. If you care about those types of things, I don't think you're ready for a relationship because I think it's so petty.
... And I'm thought that only myspace even HAS a top 8 thing. But I could be wrong because I don't visit that many social networking sites.
@IfonEarth@xanga - facebook apps like top friends are sort of the same thing . . . and equally annoying!
@hopelessromantic - haha! i'm supposedly married to a girl on facebook, too :)
Haha, I've seen entire friendships ended over Top 8 type issues. People really take things too seriously. But more to answer the question, I generally put my significant other as #2. My best friend is #1, and marriage is really the only thing I see changing that, and that's because I think your spouse should be your best friend.
I'm in highschool and typically, after a couple has been dating for a month or so they become each others number one on top eights.
I think that is a load of bullcrap. My significant other is already my best friend, so before he even became my SO he was my number two friend.
No matter what, my best friend (female) will remain my top friend because I've known her since we were little little kids.
There have been fights over the placement of a top friend, but I've never been part of that crappy drama.
I've never heard of any real drama with the top 8, but I'm sure it exists.
Does it matter who is in what position? It shouldn't...
I don't really care if my SO puts me on his top friends or not. But he's #1 on my top friends on Facebook. I would've put my best friend there, and him as #2, but she doesn't have a Facebook account so my SO gets the top spot.
I've seen fights happen about this sort of thing all the time. Two of my friends got in an argument because one put the other as #2, while that girl is nowhere on her top friends.
I think that is so pathetic, fighting over little things like that. Yes, it's true that when you're put on a lot of people's top friends on Facebook, your "popularity" goes up, but it's not like that makes you a better person.
(Oh, and I'm also supposedly married to a girl on Facebook. Haha.)
Blah, drama over top 49857983578943 are real stupid. I mean, it's JUST the internet. But some people take it so seriously that you know just what their thinking when you're moved around on there.
Haha, with most of my exboyfriends, if they were pissed off at me or something, they'd put me at a "lower" placement. And I didn't really care. But that's how I could always tell if something was up.
Maybe we're all just hypocrites and saying what we believe, but in reality we're all starting up drama with it. It's possible.
seen all that drama in high school, quite funny watching people fight for other people's "top 8"
Oh dear, this ol' issue. Well, I figure that if they are to make a big issue about not being number 1, they have a problem. For me, as long as I'm up there, it's fine. But, even if I'm not, oh well. It's just a stupid little thing to argue about anyways.
My s/o takes the #1 spot just because it's an unspoken/nice thing between us. Beyond that is completely random and ALL of my good friends are included. Where you "rank" shouldn't matter.
But I must admit, I was once taken off a top eight when my friend got mad at me. I did get upset, but only because i knew it was a move made intentionally to hurt my feelings. It's one thing to randomly place me on the list. It's another thing for a good friend to go out of his way to take me (and only me) off. Otherwise I really couldn't have cared less what merit, if any, those applications held.
The top users on my MySpace have always been people that I stay in touch with. I've heard of drama but everytime I change mine... no one gripes.
i never really thought that was supposed to be significant... my bf of 8 months still says he's single on his profile...
One of the many reasons I never use myspace.
My boyfriend is definitely my number 1, though, if I had to rank people. When we first started dating, my then best friend was more important, but now, George is my best friend, period.
@mocha_mel@xanga - I think my myspace still says I'm single... 2.5 yrs later.
And we only just became "official" on facebook two days ago.
It's been my personal experence, that myspace is the #1 leading cause of breakups in High School kids.
When I was under the spell of MySpace, My fiancee usually garnered my top spot. 100%. My best friends were 2nd and 3rd. and my associates, 4+.
My Family is too technologically illiterate to work the space, let alone pay for dial-up.
But all in all, I've read some other opinions on here, and I would have to agree with the thory regarding self esteem and your caring about your position on somebody elses top whatever.
my boyfriend doesn't use his myspace much but i am #1, before his brother. none of my family's on myspace so my top is made up of my friends with my boyfriend being #1.
my ex-boyfriend and i use to go through myspace drama. at the end, i didn't give a crap anymore and just decided to take him off, too. then he started giving me crap for it.
my boyfriend and i don't stress about tops or whatever. he knows that i come home to him and only him as i know he does with me. we're secure and we don't try to make drama out of something to meaningless.
I think if you're dating someone and it's serious, than your significant other should have a place in your top friends. They don't have to be number 1, but yes rank is not important at all.
The drama a top 8 causes is so petty and I agree with most people that those who are self-absorbed on that kind of thing need help! Everyone should google the code to hide that shit because it seriously is the source of all envy x_x
I don't care where I am "ranked" on people's top friends' list, but my boyfriend is number 2, because my Mommy is first. I've never had any fights or anything because of a top 8. None of my friends care that much about a place where we just send messages to each other.