Dr. DatingishDear Dr. Datingish,
I've been crushing on a girl who works at my neighborhood Starbucks
for a few months now. It wasn't until recently (last week) that I
decided to man-up and talk to her. I made a comment to her
about her new hair color, and ever since then she's been noticing me
more! I'm sure people recognize me as a regular patron at that store,
but she interacts with me more so than the other baristas. She's the
only one who knows my name and says hi and bye to me consistently.
She also teases me sometimes by refusing to make my drink or charging
me $50 for water (my friend interpreted this as flirting but I'm not sure.) As far as I know, I've never seen her kid around like this
with others.
I'm not sure if this should be construed as interest or
just good "customer service". What do you think?
Sincerely,
Crushing at Starbucks
What do you think guys... does Crushing have a chance? And if you've worked in retail: how do let customers know you'd be interested... versus letting them know you're just being polite?
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She's definitely flirting.
If I just want to be polite, I'll smile, and make your coffee and I'd try not to say too much so you WOULDN'T think I like you.
That's just my theory.
she's flirting... but it's likely just harmless "i provide good customer service" flirting... or it might even be "i'm bored working in this hell hole and flirting with this guy is fun."
She's flirting. I say just ask her out a la Ron Livingston asking out Jennifer Aniston on "Office Space."
Definitely flirting. Flirt back, and see what happens. Just remember any girl worth having is worth taking the risk. The worst thing she can do is say no, right? And you'll be no worse off than when you started. Good luck!
She's sooo flirting!!!
If she weren't flirting, then she'd either treat other people the same way she treats you, or treat you the same way she treats everyone else =P
@LittleMissGrumpy@xanga - hahaha Nice call.
If the customer is nice you are more inclined to remember them and have a chat. But in this case I think she is interested - flirting at least.
Well I never was interested in any customers when I worked retail, but I think she's definitely flirting.
I think she's flirting.
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She's definitely flirting. I mean, I don't do that to my customers. But, if I am interested in a person (not really much for a date, but I find them as an awesome customer) I tend to talk alot more to them while ringing them out and even just cracking a joke or two. But seems like she is interested. You should go and ask her to dinner. Worst she can say is no, right? But with the way she's interacting with you, doesn't seem like she would say no. *knock on wood to not jinx* Hah.
Having worked in retail, I think she's definitely flirting. Women who work retail get hit on often enough that if she wasn't interested, she wouldn't be that friendly. Be careful though, she might prefer not to date customers, especially if you're a regular.
flirrrting for sure :) but also what AGraceB said... i could understand her not wanting to date a customer who's a regular.
she is flirting, the fact that you noticed something on her has her interested.
working in retail gets boring, so when a customer makes a personal comment, it definitely sticks out.
visit again, act pretty casual, order a drink, and ask her if she'd like to go out with you sometime when she isnt busy making your drinks!
that could work, if she says no or acts really awkward then she might be flirting for fun because work pretty much sucks ?
but i think you'll be good
go for it and best of luck!
=]
I'm guessing she's flirting
but then again I was never good at reading the signs
she wants you, buddy! hehe...get to know her and who knows it might lead to more than barista and customer r/ship...
She's flirting, but play it cool, dude. Don't rush in, and be patient. Keep flirting back, raising the stakes just a bit each time. But don't wait too long! IF you play your cards right, you can put yourself out there and still keep your dignity if she says no. Meaning, if she says no, you and her won't feel awkward, the next time you go to the coffee shop. You say you're a regular, so you're risking breaking the 'hang-out' code of not playing in your own backyard. You risk having to find a new coffee shop, if it totally fails, but what's worse? Wondering what-if about a super-cool girl, or finding a new place for a cup of joe? (And, if you ask me, you can find a better place than a Starbucks). Good luck, and keep us posted!
OMG just ask for her number already!
Who cares if she shoots you down. What then? You can never go back to that starbucks again? Oh no, there are like fifty billion of them (minus 600 due to the bad economy). But yah. Just go for it. Good Luck!!!
She's flirting definitely but don't go on too strong. Good luck
I don't know how many of these people work at Starbucks, but, we see many people every day. We are comfortable in our work environment and everyone becomes more flirtatious. It is what we do, we do it for fun, we do it for tips, we also do it for the sake of reciprocation from the customer. The girls who work at Starbucks tend to be much more friendly and much more confident.
She is flirting, but, there is only one way to find out. Make an innocent proposal, something that is less than a date. You have nothing to lose and everything to gain.
She's flirting!!! go for it!!! keep us posted!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! =]
That is a good question b/c it could really go either way.
I work at a cafe serving Starbucks coffee inside of a Barnes & Noble so this is my insight. No matter how big of a douchebag you are to me, I will still be extremely friendly & serve you w/ a fatty smile on my face. I know how important customer service is and if I were the customer, I wouldn't want some grumpy employee w/no personality helping me.
I've never flirted w/any customer that I was attracted to/interested in, but would most likely interact with/talk to them more.
We have tons of regulars that come in all of the time that I'm pretty friendly w/since we recognize each other. But there are definitely some creepy guys that lurk around the cafe. I have one customer who thinks it's hilarious whenever he says "a hot dog & a slurpee!" every single time I help him & ask him what I can get him. Or if I'm busy and let him know that I'll be w/him in a minute, he'll jokingly yell "NO! I will NOT wait!" and laugh like a maniac. Needless to say, it's annoying as fuck and I'd love to punch him. But I suck it up.Â
i'm thinking... HOW CAN THIS NOT BE FLIRTING???
Definetly flirting. =]
Maybe you should try not going in for a while then appearing and see what she says, just for the sake of it. She might not date customers tho, thats could be tricky =/
i agree with the people who are saying this could just be "great customer service". i mean, none of us have been there so we're going by HIS perception of what the situation feels like. just as it could be true that she's flirting, it could also be true that he doesn't pick up on girls simply being nice for the sake of their job. and unless he sits in her store during her entire shift, how can he say she doesn't "flirt" with other people? i'm just saying, there's a lot of speculation going on about the situation from the one sided information we received. if anything, just ask her out or for her number. stop guessing at what she's doing or not doing. life/dating is not this complicated, loL.
Go for it!