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Mr. Macchiato
Have you guys heard about A-Rod and Madonna's "affair"?
Supposedly they've never actually physically cheated... they're just spending a lot of time together. A-Rod leaves his house as late as midnight, and hangs out with Madonna discussing Kaballah and the like. He supposedly told someone that Madonna was his "soulmate".
If I ever left my place at midnight to discuss Kaballah with my soulmate... I don't think that would go over so well at home. I guess I could always claim that I wasn't physically cheating? But it's interesting - A-Rod's wife has been physically cheated on many times (A-Rod has a stripper problem), but it didn't seem to bother her as much until he emotionally cheated. She just filed for divorce, citing his "affair of the heart"!
I guess that brings up the age old question: which is worse... emotional cheating or physical cheating?
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Emotional. You can always pan off physical as a temporary lapse of judgment, but that doesn't excuse work for emotional.
I will never cheat
Physical cheating is worse because it can be proven.
What's worse, being shot in the right foot or the left foot?
They're the same. It's not what you do. It's what's BEHIND what you did.
If you cheat, you have no respect and arguably no LOVE for your partner. If you're going to cheat, emotionally or physically, you should at least have the balls to face up to your partner and be honest -- tell them whatever issue you have; and break off your relationship. For god's sake at least have that much respect for somebody you should be LOVING.
I gotta agree with "the last kiss" here... I've never been physically cheated on, that I know of, but the emotional stuff can be pretty painful. Especially when he openly shares that his heart has been elsewhere and expects you to stay with him... *sigh*
"be honest -- tell them whatever issue you have; and break off your relationship. For god's sake at least have that much respect for somebody you should be LOVING." --exactly.
They both suck.
Imo, Emotional. Emotional seems to have a mental consciousness of what's happening and can be prevented as it would take time to emotionally cheat. Physical cheating, as said before, is a lapse of judgement.
idk i thkn leaveing for to hang with some one else is still physically cheating idk but thats my opinion
I didn't even know you could emotionally cheat on a person. O_O
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@the_last_kiss - well said. I totally agree.
& to some extent, there is an emotional aspect behind the physical cheating.. To physically cheat would mean there was something lacking in your relationship & because you weren't satisfied, it moved you to act in such a way.
& honestly, neither of them are acceptable in my book.
Emotional cheating is worse because you can't completely get rid of "feelings"... and it sucks.
I've done it.
They both suck in different ways. Though if you claim someone's emotionally cheating on you people will just write it off as jealousy or some such. Physical cheating has more societal credibility.
Though physical cheating compunded with emotional is probably the worst. I was cheated on by someone I was with for several years, living together and everything. She tried to make herself sound better by saying she hadn't just met her, that they'd been hanging out for awhile before they slept together. As if that would somehow make it better. "No honey, it wasn't just some stupid spur of the moment bad decision or druken hook-up. We were cultivating an entire mini relationship behind you back! Doesn't that make you feel better?"
Cheating of any variety is a horrible act. Cheaters should be drawn and quartered.
I'm gonna guess that most guys would say physical cheating is worse and most women would say emotional cheating.
I however would like to break that gender stereotype and say that emotional cheating is worse.
Physical cheating is much worst because once you do it, you can never go back. Emotional does not show and most people are guilty of emotional cheating. Emotional cheating is more like a dream, something that you can't control, it stays in your head, and there's no evidence, unless you want someone to know about it. Emotional cheating can happen if a relationship is not going well, but if the relationship improves with time then everything is great. But if you physically cheated and both partners are trying to make the relationship better, even if the relationship gets better, the one cheated on will never forget. The one cheated on will always remember that someone else touched you, and would always wonder did you enjoy the other person better. Emotionallly cheating there is nobody to physically compare your significant other to. The mind is not perfect, we think good thoughts and bad thoughts every day. If you emotionally cheat and think that the relationship will not work out and you can talk to your partner about it, then I say tell them and break it off. But if you care about you partner, try to fix the relationship, and don't hurt them, because once you say you had thoughts you can never take it back. Words can sting like a knife forever.
I think they can both have the same results, they both take away bits and pieces from your heart. and when you go back to your true someone then it just feels like theres a wall there. I've chosen to stay pure in my emotional and physical life
Emotional is way worse.
Physical cheating is not necessarily an act of loving someone. It's an act of just wanting some pleasure that you maybe couldn't get from your girlfriend/boyfriend/husband/wife at the time for one reason or another. (I am not saying it's right, just saying that it could be the result of temptation or just boredom, or something). It usually doesn't have love or strings attached.
Emotional cheating, however, is cheating of the heart. You're falling in love with someone else. You're loving them, not your significant other.
Though, it's definitely a combination of the two that's lethal.
*Shrugs* That's my take on it
Both. I wouldn't know what defines which way of cheating is worse because it would depend on the characteristics your weighing, but either way, both ways hurt.
Emotional cheating, you're cheating both sides, being unfaithful to yourself and your partner. You're letting her/him to feel false emotions and keeping yourself from being with the one you actually want to be with. Physically cheating on someone... even though you may not have any feelings toward this person, you still did wrong. To me its saying that your partner is not good enough for you.
I think emotional cheating is much more painful--an accidental drunken hook up can be worked through; it can be forgiven. That person might as well not even exist. However, willingly giving out your heart to someone else is... well, it hurts more. Obviously.
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And to answer your question, I don't ever think the physical is ever completely severed from the emotional. To me, they're one and the same. So both forms are simply cheating.
physical...there's something very significant about sex.
but a porn addiction could almost be seen as a form of cheating.
Physical cheating, in my opinion, is much, much worse. At least then you'll always know that the cheater made a choice. With emotional cheating, assuming the person is just guilty of falling in love with someone else, you'll know it's not something they permitted themselves to do. It's not something they could stop, at least not very easily.
With the physical variation you approach a fork in the road and deliberately choose one or the other; emotionally you just find yourself walking down one path, you were never given a choice.
They both hurt like heck, but emotional is more... forgivable, I suppose.
Depends. If there's lying involved either way, then neither is pleasant. If, however, the spouse is honest about things, then I'd say physical is much worse. Most people will disagree with me, but I think it's somewhat valid for someone to fall in love with someone else. It's not pretty, but it's much more understandable than random, meaningless sex.
Definitely emotional. But both are painful to go through.