by
Mr. Macchiato
You know how when new couples get together, they're in that "honeymoon"
period? Where everything is perfect and the two lovebirds have never
been happier, blah blah blah.
I was trying to describe it, and came across
this description on AskMen.com:
When
you saw her for the first time, your stomach did a somersault, your
heart took a trampoline leap into your throat and your knees began to
wobble like a Slinky down a staircase. She was, without a doubt, the
most attractive woman you had ever seen.
There was a certain je
ne sais quoi about her that was impossible to ignore. And so came the
chase and the game of cat and mouse that men and women love to play.
What is more fun than the thrill of the hunt? You both know that you
want each other yet you pretend otherwise. Together, you revel in that
beautiful and almost painful tension before you submit to temptation in
a heap of emotion and passion. This is, without question, the best part
of a new relationship.
Ha well I don't know if it's the absolutely best part of a new relationship, but it does tee up something I've been wondering.
How long do you think the honeymoon period lasts? And what do you do when it's over?
Comments (43)
i give it 3-5 months, then reality sets in and then everyone gets practical. now if you can get past that, then you're ready for the thought of marriage.
In my relationship, the "honeymoon" period lasted about 3 years. While we're still hand-holding, butterflies-fluttering-in-the-stomach variety, things got far more reality-based and far less in the clouds sometime around then. Things are still good--don't get me wrong--just not so honeymoonish anymore, if that makes sense.
The honeymoon period lasts on average about 3-6 months. I have this on authority from my neurobiology teacher. Haha... We feel differently because there are different neurotransmitters involved. There's science behind it. :)
@the_last_kiss - Your parents sound like mine.
I agree.
@manilajones@xanga -
I completely agree and that's why I didn't stay with guys once 'the honeymoon period' was over. For me, the honeymoon feeling is when I can't get the other one out of my head, and i get a spark every time I see them.
I don't think honeymoon moments last a long time, maybe a little, but it probably depends. I wish they lasted a long time x]
Two women I know, who are still in their long-term relationships, both said their honeymoon periods ended after about 2 years, at which point they morphed into an old-married-couple-like comfort and unfortunately lost the spark. But I think honeymoon periods ending, though common, aren't the rule.
My own relationship has been just over 2 years, but I don't think we'll ever see the end of our honeymoon period. We both get the butterflies whenever we're with each other but it's also always comforting at the same time, and it only gets stronger both ways every day. Somehow knowing we have other options but not being tempted by any of them makes us feel very secure with ourselves and each other, and in that we find a lot of freedom and joy. We're best friends. I know everything I need to know about him (like how to push his buttons), but he's so intelligent, funny, curious, energetic, understanding, respectful, loving, and eager to please that I can't ever get bored with him. We're more like kids than adults in that sense. We know each other's faults, but we work around them so it's like they're not even there. Life is pretty swell when you have two givers in a relationship.
@the_last_kiss - Hopefully we'll grow to be just like your parents. It's pretty amazing they're like that even with kids.
@lauralen@xanga - Wow, 35 years and still going strong. They must have laid good groundwork for you.
@auralay_ariemay@xanga - Perfect answer.
Ours lasted about 3 months, and we were glad when it was over. It's much easier to make good decisions when you aren't completely infatuated with someone! Now we're more comfortable together and love each other just as much as ever did.
3 months, break up.
@auralay_ariemay@xanga - I understand what you're saying and I agree. The honeymoon period is like seeing people's outer shell and having fun getting to know one another on that personal level.
The honeymoon ends when you know their flaws, and ticks, and you know how to push their buttons or what gets them going. And you still love and accept them, and want to be with them. Then it's more of a relationship, long term.
relationship advice piece generally state that it last usually up to about the third month... which was kind of true... forced on by the fact more so of me having to move back home with my parents 2 and a half hours away from my boyfriend and honestly i got quite stessed about it... i really did, you can ask my boyfriend lol! But on sunday my baby and I got to see each other and it was like when I saw him for the first time all over again, cause he looked... *sigh*... GOOD! lol, I was that little giggle girl all over again except more comfortable... that afternoon was amazing, even though it was spent with one of my "brothers" and our mutual friend Dove. *sigh* I hope i can see him again really soon.
@manilajones@xanga - i agree. i want a relationship where i can answer, "(x) blissfully great years," instead of, "too damn long," to the question, "how long have you guys been together?" for me, that honeymoon phase usually ends at 2 years. thus is why most of my relationships end. i get bored once i hit that comfortable plateau. hopefully this time around, he's the type to keep me on my toes.
Hmm well I see what u mean but my honeymoon period is up down. Personally, I like to pick fights with my boyfriend so then we can have our own honeymoon adventure later that night! there's nothing better than good ole' making up
We've been dating for four years and I think we are still in the honey moon period. Of course it doesn't last 24 hrs a day 7 days a week but its still there
it's really personal and quite individual so i don't think we can say it lasts 1 week or 1 year...or something like that...but definitely it's a really sweet period :) and every couple remembers it like the time i didn't know who actually you are...and we were making it 5 times a day,every day ...and your socks didn't smell..once it's ended comes the big decision- would you accept his/her faults and stay with her/him althought she/he is not so perfect like you thought...or you would prefer to go on another "honeymoon period" and so on and so on...i wish the honeymoon period lasted the whole relationship but the truth is that there are 2 in 2000 couples that manage to save the initial flame...so..let's be realistic...BUT! don't think about "when it's over" ...enjoy the moment because it's rare...and just be happy that you feel that way...btw,i am in a honeymoon period right now...and it's like i am flying around in pink clouds:)... and i don't want to think when or how it would be over...
@sceadena@xanga - Just wanted to say that I absolutely enjoyed reading this response.
People say it's around 3 months. If you last longer than that, then the relationship is healthy.