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Mr. Macchiato
I was feeling sick yesterday; somehow, I had come down with a sore throat the night before. My forehead felt hot, although the temperature said my temp was normal
. I had a headache that came and went (actually I still have that - but I usually have a headache). I often get a little bit sick like this... sick enough to feel completely out of it, but not sick enough to show a lot of symptoms.
When I do get sick enough that I have to stay at home, I definitely have some expectations/hopes/dreams on how I'm treated... you guessed it, based on how my mom took care of me when I was sick as a kid. Isn't that awful? I am comparing my wife to my mom! *gasp* That's something that I really try never to do.
My poor wife has no idea how my mom took care of me when I was sick. So in the interest of marital harmony, I have pulled together this list of my hopes and dreams when I am sick:
- I want my partner to believe that I am sick (please don't doubt me or dismiss my aches and pains)
- I would like my partner to bring me the appropriate medicine from the medicine cabinet (I am rarely so sick I can't get it for myself, so I don't know I prefer her to bring it to me).
- I would like my partner to be vaguely concerned about my health until I get better. I guess this entails asking me if I am OK and if I need anything. I never do, but for some reason that helps.
A little sad, huh. Based on my experiences though, I have come to the conclusion that many men (including myself) are (relative) crybabies when they get sick. When women get sick, they seem to just soldier on. I soldier on in so many areas in my life, but not when I get seriously sick. To me, getting a little pampered when you are sick is one of the top perks of being a relationship.
When you get sick, do you hope to get pampered a bit? Or are you tough and just keep truckin'?
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I generally lay in bed for about an hour;
cursing out everything in sight and reminding myself of how much this royally sucks, and then get up and truck on through.
There is too little of life to waste it on being sick.
Screw illness.
::Rico::
When I get sick, I don't really pay it much attention & keep doing what I'm doing. I don't think too much about being pampered.. However, the last time I was sick [I don't get sick often, maybe once a year], I had a 102 fever & my guy never left my side except to go to class. He then came back right away with soup & carrots [carrots 'cause I had been craving them] & stayed by my side as I slept to make sure I was ok & to be available should I need anything else.
hehe. I'm a lucky girl. xD
ps. I hope you feel better!
I don't know. It seems that what you ask for falls under the category of "general TLC", which i'd think would be expected even if you weren't sick.
- to believe in you.
- to bring you something you need if they know you need it.
- to be concerned about your well-being.
when i'm sick (not often), i lose my appetite. i eat very little, if at all. the only thing i will eat is something my girl makes for me.
When I'm sick I stay in bed and read with a big cup of tea..but I tend to do things to get better that my mom made us do when we were little. (eat chicken noodle soup and have lots of toast, etc.) I just want everyone to leave me alone till I'm better.
wow, that's really cute!
I rarely get sick too- so when i'm sick... i'm SICK. i wasn't sick this one time, but i had terrible lower back pain. no amount of fluffy pillows would alleviate it. and it was horrible timing since it was midterm time. i tried everything everyone told me. but it was futile. i ended up literally crying like a baby. my boyfriend ran to ralphs (i think he drove..) and got me icy hot patches. he put me to bed, put them on me and he waited until i was drifting off to sleep. :] sweet i know~
I pamper him too when he's sick :] lots of blankets and lots of "are you ok? do you need anything?" haha, it's fun playing nurse!
my fiance always used to say that in the past before he met me he always wanted to be totally alone and not talk to anyone when he's sick. i babied him a lot when he got sick and he didnt mind it when in the past it would annoy him when his mom or someone tried to baby him. fast forward two years later and now when he's sick he's a total baby! i'm kind of a baby too even though i hardly get true sick and often just get "almost" sick. i have to admit i like being babied too.
Generally, I lie in bed for a while, and very much appreciate when my boyfriend brings me cold water, medicine, or just holds me. I'm more often sick than he is, but anytime he feels ill, I offer him meds, water, juice, and enough time to fall asleep in my arms.
I keep going = )
I totally am not one of those women who "soldier on" when they're sick. I'm a complete baby and like to be taken care of, not that I demand it, I just tend to get somewhat depressed if no one's around to coddle me... although I guess that soldier on part could be seen in that I'm mostly unconscious when I'm truly sick, so it really doesn't take much to help me out, aside from checking if i'm still alive every few hours...
I tend to keep truckin'. The only time I take down time is if I can't stand up, see multiple versions of one person or don't know what day it is. While I don't like being babied when I'm sick, I do appreciate when a significant other stops by just to spend some time with sick old me. Or if I'm out of cold medicine, it's much appreciated to receive a visit with a CVS bag in tow! As I've dated, I've respected what my boyfriend wanted when it came to his illnesses, and have done everything from simply leaving him alone, or cooking light dinners and cuddling through movie marathons.
Wow, such a demanding list.
?!?!
I was expecting some sort of arduous laundry list of items closed with a little bell that you would ring any time you needed to have your pillow fluffs or bon bons dropped into your mouth.
It's kind of funny, in that tragic sort of way, your list.
btw, I usually don't have anyone to take care of me when I am sick, so I just soldier on. Actually, my daughter will sometimes make me a cup of tea if I'm coughing a lot or feeling under the weather.
Haha, agree with #1 on the list.
I hate it when people do that. As I'm a person who never looks as sick as I really am, I'm often doubted by friends/siblings. It's the worst thing that people can do when a person is sick, IMO.
Men are such wimps
It's very true that we function better when sick. Although I have to say that I like being pampered when I'm sick. I think everyone does. It makes it suck slightly less.
I'm rarely ever sick but I tend to tough it out on my own except an occasional whining here and there about how my s.o. doesn't take care me as well as I take care of him. I like looking like a sick beast in the company of my own solitude. lol. No green boogers hanging out for all to see.
hehe, when i get sick there is no soldering on. i am a big baby!
Sickness brings out the toughness in me. A little TLC is always nice though, even for a woman. My boyfriend used to make me tea and rub my back when I was sick... completely unnecessary but very thoughtful and appreciated on my end. It makes me want to take care of him even more when he is sick.
I think i rarely get sick myself. I think the last time i was actually sick, was almost 2 years ago. I mean, I COULDN'T get out off bed, other times its more that i just don want to face the day and rather just chill out in my room for the day, being the typical 19 year old male, lazy and out of work for the time being. The only thing that ever plagues me are headaches, which i normally have everyday, if not, its a miracle! Or i get Poison Oak, now that, those are the times where i really dont want to move and am in such a mess, face swollen, itchy, and have the burning sensation almost always all over my body. I get lucky every now and then, and its not that bad, but still has me bedridden. So for myself, when it comes to having that crap, yeah id like to be babied, but since i dont have a per say, significant other, i cant really be babied, but she cares about me and asks if im alright and what not. So i guess that will have to do for now right? :p
you must have come up with this list with my husband!
I'm tough and don't slow down. My boyfriend on the other hand becomes a huge baby and drives me nuts!
When I get sick or don't feel well, I take care of myself. I try to go on the best I can. It doesn't always work. I really don't like people to see me sick.
When I had my wisdom teeth out, my husband was a perfect gentleman and took care of my every need. He even held my hair back for me when the medication made me puke. (now that's love!) However, when I had a bad cold, I pretty much took care of myself, and he even dumped a laundry list of things that needed to be done around the house! I was a bit annoyed.
Well I don't get sick enough to not do anything often. I'd probably lie in bed for a little bit and go on with what I was doing. I have the mindset to just keep going, if I'm not contagious and can still teach, I'm going in for the kids.
I used to drop everything and just be sick... but then I realized that it didn't help for me to stay home and lay in it, so I stopped "being sick" and started working through it. You tend to stay sick longer that way, probably, but at least you don't concentrate on being miserable in the meantime. My family tends to doubt that I am actually sick or sore, so I figure I can convince myself that I'm not sick or sore and that that'll keep me from just collapsing into "being sick."
Stomach flu, food poisoning, and pneumonia not included in the sicknesses that I truck through. Those are just miserable, and couch- and garbage can-worthy.
I am a girl and I love being pampered when I am sick, and I can't wait till I have someone to pamper me, because it's a little sad when my mom has to now, haha. But in turn, I also can't wait to pamper someone else - I was pretty sickly growing up, so I have a lot of tricks and over the counter drugs that I'm dying to use on someone,
. Seriously though, I think a sick guy that wants me to pamper him is strangely irresistable - like some weird demonstration that he needs me, maybe. I like spoiling people too, with time and gifts, so it'd be cool to have a random excuse to spoil someone and bring a smile to their poor, snot-filled face.
I don't get sick often but when I do, I usually just soldier it. But I love getting pampered too
My boyfriend gets more sick than I do, and he likes it when I pamper HIM. One time it got so bad for him, I had to go all the way to his place (we live at opposite ends of the city) and help him get ready because he was just lying on the floor and couldn't get up.
sigh... what would he do without me? haha