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Miss Double ShotI wish the Check Yes or No note were still socially acceptable after elementary school. I remember the careful writing and box drawing, the tenuous folding and refolding and the actual delivery as being stressful but direct.
Yes? Great. No? Okay, move on. But because the days of those notes are long gone, I've been stuck with the "he loves me, he loves me not" game of mental ping-pong and have had trouble being as forceful and simple as those notes were.
So I encourage you, Datingish readers: bring back the note! If you're already with someone, you'll get a feel-good affirmation when you see the "yes" checked without a second thought. If you're single now, give it to a crush . . . who knows, maybe the sheer power of The Note will steer your guy or girl in the right direction.
Do you have memories of sending or receiving Those Notes? Do you ever wish dating was as simple as passing a note in class?
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yes receiving, but it was in high school and from a boy I did not like. He asked instead of being my boyfriend, "if he could rock my world"... (and even gave 'maybe' as an option)
gross.
Yes, I received two notes. One in middle school and one in high school. Both from guys that I had zero interest in. ~_~
Wow, I would totally throw away a note like that, unless it was really cute and funny somehow.
And no, I never got one in school. I made one once, but I never delivered it.
wow, someone would have to have some major balls to do that when they're single...
aww thats awesome! i never experianced any of those notes when i was young =( never heard of them either XP
I never recieved one of these notes,
I did however recieved a valentine card in the last year of secondary school, I have a fair idea of who she was.
I got one from a really creepy kid in elementary school once. I was very happy to check the "no" box. Ah yes, check boxes make everything so much easier
I found myself thinking the same thing a few months back. Things were so much simpler. Do you like me? Yes. Okay, wanna be my girlfriend? Okay. None of this game playing bs and leading on and crap...*sigh*
i don't remember sending cards in school saying whether or not i liked someone. that actually seems kinda silly. but i don't need to use these card things. i have absolutely no problem telling someone directly to their face that i don't like them.
mind you, i usually wait for them to *ask* me or ask something that makes the logical answer out to be "i don't like you."
isn't it inherently obvious if you like someone? i.e. you wouldn't hang out with them if you didn't like them. or maybe there's just too many people out there hanging out with people they don't like.
seriously... if there's just two check boxes on the card for "Yes" or "No" someone likes me... i seriously would not care and just throw it away. it's neither funny nor meaningful.
Oh yeah, I remember those notes. I don't think I'd want to bring them back, although grown ups might be less cruel than kids.
I tried it once in second grade. But it was intercepted by the girl who sat next to the boy I gave it to, who also liked him. She told him to write no. So I wrote a nasty note back to her, and then we exchanged some second-grade type hate-notes. After I wrote: "You're lucky I can't punch you in the nose," she blacked out everything she had written and gave it to her parents, who then freaked out and wrote another note to the guidance counselor, claiming that they were concerned for their daughter's safety. I was sentenced to a school year of anger-management and she... got nothing. Not even the boy. He didn't like her because she was a narc, and didn't like me because I had threatened someone with violence.
It's so much easier to reject someone with a little check...
When you try to send a note, too many people end up seeing it or knowing about it. Ahh, fifth grade. Good times.
Never given or received "The Note", but i do agree that it should be much easier. The mind games can get really bad. Even if they aren't doing it purposely.
@SeeBeeWrite@xanga - Omg that's horrible! Kids can be so ruthless sometimes...and their parents never help, either...
ha i clearly remember feverishly sending notes like these, and constantly getting "no's"...
but that didn't stop me, i kept sending them anyway.
stupid, really, when i look back on it.
maybe its time to bring it back, along with chivalry!
::Rico::
If I like you, I will tell you.
If you like me, do something about it.
I will not play games with you. If I am in a relationship with you, I will treat it with care and respect. If you play games with me, I'm gone. This indicates a lack of care and respect on your part.
You don't need a check-box. Just tell me how you feel. You have nothing to fear. If I like you, great. If I don't, what do you lose by knowing the truth? Is it the pain you fear? Never let fear stop you from reaching for your dreams. And if that man/ woman is among those dreams, go for it -- because even if you fail, at least you know and can move on.
Live fearlessly.
Love, with all your heart, always.
Hahaha these notes are so funny. They should also have a box that says "maybe." I would always mark that one to throw you off! :)
You could learn a lot from kids. They're wise by their lack of life experience. They don't make everything so complicated. Just a simple yes or no.
it would make life easier, if we still sent them after elementary school.
but would it be socially acceptable?
Hehe yeah, everything to do with dating is much simpler in Elementary school.
When you could just say, Do you wanna be my bf?
And BAM just like that you have a new puppy at recess.
I've gotten a few notes from guys even in high school asking me if I like them or I wanna go out sometime. But the last time I got the check yes or no box was in 4th grade :P haha I still know that guy. lol.
I remember I used to be able to fold all my notes into an envelope looking thing in elementary/middle school. i'unno if I can still do it though. ):
I've never given nor received one of these classic notes. While I agree that it would make things easier to one degree, doesn't it sort of take the fun out of things? For a lot of people, dating is about 'the chase' and 'the courting.' Even if someone doesn't like you that initial pursuit is always interesting if nothing else. People are constantly learning from their relationship experiences; do we really want to reduce the awkwardness of the beginning of a relationship to a check mark?
And then of course, if they check yes the question becomes: "What now?"
I kind of wish they were ok coming from the other side, too. If I'm pretty positive about someone liking me that I'm not interested in at all, I'd rather he just whip out the note right away so I can check 'no' and he can move on.
I think it's cute.
I do stuff like that with my boyfriend all the time.
I would wait until I was already sort of seeing a guy though before I sprung my cute/strange antics on him.
Although I'd love to regress back to my early childhood, I'm not sure I'm gutsy enough to try that again. Besides, I always got burned when I passed notes around.