By
Miss Double
ShotGrease was on TV the other night, and as I sang along with Summer Lovin', I looked past the poodle skirts for a minute and thought about Sandy's plight. She met a guy on vacation, they met, fell for each other and parted ways over the course of a summer.
And, all too often, I've seen the same thing happen outside of musicals. One friend went on a week-long vacation, met a guy and fell hard . . . they exchanged numbers at the end of her time away from home, but it never worked out and she probably spent more time eating ice cream and wearing sweatpants than she ever spent with him.
In the long run, are summer flings worth pursuing?
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well, my current relationship started out as a summer fling. but we live only 10 minutes from each other, so it worked out for us. it probably wouldn't work out if you met the person across the country some where though.
As with so many things in life, you don't know for sure unless you try. My current relationship started out as a summer fling and has turned out really well. I'm still with the guy and ready to marry him. My sister, on the other hand, met this guy on a week long cruise and kind of started a long distance datingish thing with him. She flew halfway across the country to see him for a long weekend and things fell apart in a big way. Let's put it this way: after one night staying with him, she left and found a hotel and ended cutting off all communication with the guy.
Summer love is all right in the occasion that you know it's just a bunch of light-hearted fun. Having expectations kill you...the whole "I'll call you every day"s and "Let's meet up"s all go out the window once you realize that you and your summer love must carry on lives beyond summer.
So the question is: Is summer love worth pursuing?
I will answer with this: Yes. Love is always worth pursuing.
Like any other sort of love, you have to proceed with caution (extra caution, maybe) if it's summer love.
I think it depends, if it's long distance forget about a serious relationship. If the two people live relatively close to each other there is potential. Are Summer Flings worth it? I think the song more or less says it best "Summer Fling, don't mean a thing... but oh those summer nights." Not every relationship has to be serious.
I think you have to be reasonable and take a rational logical approach before you allow yourself to fall for anyone whether it be over a vacation or not. In other words, I'd say that summer love is not worth pursuing because you know that at the end of it all both of you are going to have to split up and go back to your homes.
what's worse - having an amazing time with someone you like all summer, and having it end? or missing out on that fun altogether?
I say go for it. Never regret something that once made you smile. :)
Summer flings are worth pursuing as long as you keep it in your head that that's exactly what it is - a fling. When there are no expectations for the future, it can be fun and refreshing to just date someone and have something uncomplicated for a few months. I'm hoping I'll get to have a fling with someone this summer. Last summer I dated a guy for a little while who was moving to France at the end of the summer. Because we knew that going into it, there were no expectations and it's probably the least complicated/dramatic dating experience I've ever had.
I think when people know it's just a summer fling, it's worth persuing. Something you can look back on fondly.
Sure! You never know what might come of it. And if you do get your heart broken, it's not like life is about trying to avoid getting hurt.
Yeah. Tis better to have loved...
I don't know about pursuing, but they are definitely worth having!
well, I'm thinking at this moment, "why not?" but I'm also hoping that these summer flings aren't the kinds where the girl just decides she wants someone to be with her even though she has a boyfriend back at home or vice versa. Nor do I hope that it's one of those one-night-stand things.
I'm just hoping that it's a chance they're giving themselves in finding the right person, even if it does turn out to be a long-distance relationship. Most people say that long-distance relationships don't work, but who knows? Maybe a few will be lucky enough to overcome that long-distance thing and still love each other. Yes, I still want to believe that true love exists.
I think its worth it if both people understand that it's going to end when summer ends.
My best friend had a summer fling...ended badly...almost the last day of summer.
The following year, my friendship with that friend turned into a summer relationship the following summer...and fall...and we were married the spring after. :)
I don't think flings are worth pursuing at all! Personally, I know I get attached to whoever I'm seeing; why would I pursue a short term relationship that I know will end with nothing? That's all for physical pleasure and I want more than that.
summer flings seem normal in high school and college, i don't think it's worth the time as an adult however. it blows when one person has different expectations and you gotta break it them its only a summer fling. awkward...
Well,"Grease"and"High School Musical"aside,it's all up to you!!If you think it's worth it to have a Summer Fling then forget about it after Labor Day,go for it!!
If not,well,that's what they made Beer and Country Music*for!!(*FYI:By Country Music,I'm talking about the real stuff:Johnny Cash;Merle Haggard;George Jones;etal.,not the'Chicken Fried Hallmark Cards'that pass for Country:Tim McGraw;Toby Keith;etal.!!).
Hell yeah. I've had a few, and they've been some of the most fun, dynamic pseudo-relationships I've ever had. Just keep in mind that, well, it's going to end because it has to, and you'll be fine. Enjoy it while it lasts - why not actually live your life and enjoy it?
I can't say anything that I can back up with experience, but I think that it would be OK if both people knew it was just a fling. Just some summer fun to keep from getting bored. =]
They are definately worth having, I'm not sure about persuing after the fact. Long distance relationships are hard.
I would say depending on how far apart you live depends on whether you should pursue summer flings but then again I"m not big long distance relationships.
How on earth can you judge the quality of a relationship based on where you met the other person? Books/covers, etc. My Mum (an Aussie) met my Dad (a Brit) on a package holiday in Majorca. She was travelling with a girlfriend, he was with his brother (my uncle) and my uncle's girlfriend (my aunt). They hit it off straightaway and dated the whole time Mum was working in the UK (she's a veterinarian). When Mum moved back to Oz, she realised pretty quickly she'd made a mistake, and hot footed it back to England to remedy it. They've been married for almost 37 years now, and are every bit as in love now as they were then.
Actually.. that uncle's daughter, my (English) cousin met my brother's best (Aussie) mate whilst visiting us in Australia one summer. My Mum tried to give her the, "It's just a summer fling," talk, whereupon my cousin raised an eyebrow and reminded her how she'd met my Dad. They've been married for five years now, too.
i agree with many of the others. Especially if the two people are close (distance wise) then definately persue it! But even if the two are close (distance wise) proceed with caution. You never know, i think its worth it, but don't always expect marriage.
But that's just MY personal idea.
never had one, but if depends on how easily you can get back into the dating pool.
if youre a serial dater, then go for it, but if you're a once a year kind of girl, then its a bad idea.