Tuesday, 01 July 2008
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Who's In Charge Here? Photo Edition
I was walking the other day and saw a couple holding hands this way.
The girl held out her pointer finger for the guy to hold, and he held onto it with his whole hand.
(This is the gesture, but I know it's a parent and kid in this pic
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Do you think the way a couple holds hands is a good indication of their relationship?
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Key word is indicator.
60% chance of Whipped.
And judging by the picture, she's a big pedophile/midget-o-phile. Or a giantess.
Or a mom.
Apparently she's either not that into him or she makes him think he'll feel lost without her...
They need to talk lol.
How often two people hold hands is more important than merely how they hold hands.
@esch99@xanga - Hah, it took me a second to realize what you meant... I think that's just an examplt picture lol.
@esch99@xanga - haha, you have no idea how hard it is to find an appropriate photo for the hand holding I wanted to show!
http://tinyurl.com/3j8ypa
This is an interesting way to hold hands too.
That's so weird I've never seen a couple hold hands like that.
Everyone has their little quirks.
My ex would insist that if our fingers weren't intertwined while we eachother's hands, then we weren't really holding hands.
"This is how you hold hands!" he would say.
I love holding hands, its so sweet.
There is one of the tabloid magazines like Us Magazine or People (I'm so guilty of reading those) that has someone like a behavior specialist (they probably have some cutesy name for it) who looks at pictures of star couples together to decipher what their body language meant (i.e. how they held hands, stood together). Sometimes the call seemed right, other times it was way off. I suppose it's hard to really tell the dynamics of the couple unless you spend time together...
I have no idea what the finger holding signifies, but my husband has recently decided that's how he wants us to hold hands. I hate it because it DOES make me feel like a child. I usually turn him down and grab his whole hand.
I suppose that is a good gesture.. usually its pretty promsing
It's really nice holding someone's hand. I love the feeling of it because it makes me feel that I am his and he is mine.
My boyfriend and I usually hold hands with fingers intertwined like you normally see. However, occasionally we clasp our whole hands, and when we are feeling cutesy we hold pinkies and grin like little kids. We've never held hands like the picture, though. I think if we did once we would quickly switch to a more "partners" feeling hold rather than "parent and child." I think the way a couple holds hands can vary a lot depending on mood and it's hard to judge a couple by one photo.
Still, if that couple holds hands like that a lot, it might be an indication that somethinge else isn't quite normal in the relationship...
i think it really depends on the couple, but that is an odd way of holding hands.
i think it depends on how sweaty their hands are...
as long as tey held hands with the Jesus in ther hearts!
I think it all depends who your with and how your feelings are towards them. I know with my first boyfriend I ever had we never held hands but i always had my arm through his arm, just like a princess would.
With another of my boyfriends we had both our pinkies interlocked, and now with my current bf we've had a lot of different ways to hold hands. Probably every which way. Meaning i'm probably comfortable and trust him fully to be able to do that.
Body language is far stronger than words.
What about you? What do you think of it?
I feel irritated when my wife hold my hands. But we're married for 27 years. I find a lot of couples kiss each other & hold hands in public but separated in 2 years. It's a show off thing or shall I say hypocrite gestures.
I feel good doing it privately.
I find this to be an interesting question. I mean there might be other reasons why a person might do this. For one I just recently helped someone moved and I carred a lot of heavy things. My fingers were super swelled up, it seriously hurt to touch anything. So when I saw my bf that night, he tried to hold my hands but it hurt. So he just interlocked pinkies which he rarely does and we kept slipping away from each other so he ended up having us interlock arms as we walked sort of like how you would if you walking down the aslie to get married or something.
I mean it's hard to figure out something this from a snap shot, sure it's fun to come up with stories but we really don't know what's going on there. ^_^
its' obvious the girl is in "charge" from your couple scenario.
I took psychology 3 years ago... and I can understand the basis of simple body language.
The girl seems like she has the coy, flirty "come hither" sort of persona to the guy.
no, i don't necessarily think HOW people hold hands is key. i think IF and WHEN they hold hands is the indicator of their relationship. for example, i always thought it was really cute that during a show/concert/movie or anything my grandpa would reach over and kind of squeeze my grandma's hand (if they weren't holding hands) and give her that look like he probably did when he first fell in love with her. i thouht that was a bigger sign of love than the couple who HAVE to hold hands at all times.
my boyfriend has big ole burly man hands (which i suppose is a really good thing, since he is a guy LOL!!) but i have broken all of my fingers so some times if we are walking the park and it is hot and humid they ache really bad when he grips them strongly..so it is easier for me to dangle with my pinky or something similar to that. i don't think it makes us any different than when we intertwine fingers or grasp hands..or if it is really hot and gross, or one of us has gross hands and we don't hold hands it also doesn't mean our relationship is troubled or doomed.. just means we ain't holding hands at that time.
i have VERY sweaty hands. that dictates the way we hold holds.
I love holding hands. It's not a possessive-ness thing either; not like I'm marking my woman by holding her hand in public -- it's a thing of closeness and intimacy that one doesn't get by simply walking arm in arm, or beside each other. It's something I like to do at home too, even just sitting on the sofa watching TV -- holding hands, fingers intertwined or just cupped together... it's a great feeling. One of my favorite ways to fall asleep is holding hands.
I miss it. More than the kisses, even.
Holding hands says more than a kiss. Enemies can kiss. Kisses can be manipulative. But holding hands indicates trust. It says, "here is my hand, take it in yours, and we will grasp our hands together because we have a relationship of trusting love" -- even close friends qualify for this.
As for holding hand positions, I don't think the position indicates dominance or submission, unless it is overt, which 99% of the time is not -- it falls into personal preference. Cupped hands are more casual. Intertwined fingers are more intimate, based on the surface contact area (and thus, nerve endings fired) -- I believe touch-centric people prefer greater contact while others don't mind any way.
yes its a good indicator