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Miss Double ShotThe train I take to get into NYC is always crowded on the weekends, but if I'm lucky enough, I can grab a square foot of space to myself and stand in the corner while I count down the minutes until I can get my personal space bubble back.
Saturday, though, I was squished next to a guy and a girl who were really getting into it on the train. There was moaning, calling "oh daaaaaddy!" and tongue involved. Hello.
I've never been a big fan of PDA because I've never been a touchy-feely person in general and watching other people getting cozy in such close proximity makes me inordinately uncomfortable. And while I recognize that you and your
lovahhhh want to show your joy to everyone within a five-mile radius, I also think it's necessary to think about those around you.
Sometimes I wish I could sneeze on command; I bet that'd break things up. "Oops, sorry, lovers. My bad."
When it comes to showing affection in public, how much is too much?
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For me, french kissing in public is too much. Normal kisses on lips or cheeks are not too bad... And hugs are perfectly fine, as well as hand-holding. I'm quite a touchy-feely person :)
Something I have used to break up PDA before is to go up to them and ask politely "May I join in?" It might not always work to break up the offenders but it always has for me.
Usually it's dependent on your surroundings. A Sunday afternoon in church is going to have different rules than sunrise on the banks of the Seine, which might be different from 2AM at a crowded club.
In general, I think FreeVerse has some good standards. I think "Oh Daddy" is only appropriate in private. And moaning only if no one else can hear you.
omg it grosses me out when I see 12 years old making out on the subway station or train...eek! Let me call ur mama haha
minor pdas are ok, hand holding, non-french kissing, hugs. People in relationships must understand that yes love is great but you have to be mindful of others in your surroundings. What if children are out. Maybe their parents do not appreciate their children seeing your overly expressed love. Kids ask questions: let the parents decide what is appropriate for them and do not force the issue by your blatant and nearly R or X rated display. You want respect, GIVE IT!
This is how I go by it, I like to be considerate of others.
If you are out and about with your 'lovahhh' (haha) and say he or she kisses your ear and your ear is a hot spot and now you want some action, well lovely. Go someplace else. Basically if you are worked up at all in public, you need to stop.
A peck on the mouth = okay. Anything more than that = not okay.
Hand holding, pecks on the cheek are ok. Making out in public.. not ok. Bleh.
Sneezing on command sounds like a neat trick..
I think tongue and anything beyond that is too much in public. Pecks and hand-holding and hugs are sweet, the rest of it is private not-so-endearing stuff. It's kind of like the difference between giving the impression of love and giving an impression of lust. But that could just be me.
I'd go with Freeverse's standards. Beyond that, I say dump very cold water over their heads. Sploosh.
@mrcolorful - hahaha thats great. id love to see the look on their faces!
The regular hold handing, peck on the check or lips and hugging is fine.
Beyond that is bad.
Hugs are fine. Little kisses on the nose and cheek are fine. I think that's sweet and it doesn't bother me a bit. But French kissing in public is just waaaay toooo much. It makes me a little bit angry.
@mrcolorful - lmao, you must really be a Mr. Colorful... haha
I think for me, french kissing is too much in public. I'd give the lovers a break on holidays but come on, in someplace as public as the train?
i think a peck on the lips (or cheeks, forehead, etc) here and there as well as holding hands and hugging are all okay... any more than that you're probably going to start making others uncomfortable
EW!! wth? :(
tongue is too much PDA. yeah, riding the PATH or LIRR would be a long ride if right next to you a couple was putting on a show.
I think PDA is just not appropriate? I mean, why would you want EVERYONE to see? I just always hated PDA. I mean, a kiss on the cheek or the lips here and there, and hugs and holding hands are okay, but getting into it like crazy?. NO.
I don't even like to show PDA because of how many people my family knows. It'll just be a shame if my mother gets 48957398 calls from her friends saying "OH MY GOSH. I SAW HER HOLDING HANDS WITH A BOY! ARE YOU ACTUALLY ALLOWING THAT?!?!" So I don't even bother holding hands or any of that stuff.
Just don't go overboard. You never know who you might offend, or run into.
Don't do anything you wouldn't want your mama seeing.
I guess it depends on how and when its done.... I mean its just some people who don't care at all.. but maybe people should care more about doing certain things in the public eyes... I dunno though, maybe some kissing isn't too bad..
Much more than holding hands, a kiss on the cheek or a nice short kiss on the lips is too much.
@nottoosmallatall@xanga - agreed!
I agree! PDA makes me feel funny inside.
I think that kissing on lips or cheek or holding hands or hugging is okay but I think that is as far as it should go in public otherwise get a room.
I feel like little kisses, hugs and hand holding are fine for the most part, but if you can't let go of your s.o. for more than a few minutes or if you are making out, then it's definitely too much. Anything held for extended periods of time, or that would make other people uncomfortable bc of either the sexual or mushy gushiness, are "too far" when it comes to pda, at least to me.