This is a guest blog submitted by a Datingish reader. It is rated C for Caution. If you are easily offended, please do not read this post!How different races hit on or sexually harass girls in the City of AngelsI just went to go get something from my car and several cars with Mexicans in them drove by, honking their horns at me. This got me thinking about the different ways that different races hit on girls in the melting pot that is the City of Angels. This may offend you if you're Mexican, black, white, or Asian... but oh well.
1) Mexicans Mexicans will honk, whistle, catcall, hoot, use Spanish (Ay yay yay!) and make other indistinguishable noises. I don't know what they think they're going to achieve by doing this because they never actually talk to you. It doesn't matter what age you are because they'll even do this to elementary school girls. Every girl who grew up in LA knows exactly what I'm talking about.
I generally like Hispanic people but in my collective experience, I've found them to be one of the most perverted races (at least in LA).
I've been a victim of the drive-by jack-off on numerous occasions. In fact, my cousin was sitting in her car a couple of weeks ago talking on her cell phone. It was about midnight and she noticed a Mexican dude on the corner, but didn't give it much thought. All of a sudden he was all up on her window jacking off in front of her face!! Luckily her window was closed and she responded by sticking out both her middle fingers at him and yelling out "F*** YOU! F*** YOU! F*** YOU!" She didn't want to show fear because she too has been the victim of many a drive-by jack off.
Another time I was getting into the passenger side of my ex-boyfriend's car when this little Mexican kid who couldn't have been more than 6 years old came up to me with a wicked smile, thrust his pelvis forward and grabbed his little member!!! He then ran back to his laughing friend waiting at the corner and they ran off together. They start young.
2) BlacksBlack guys will look a girl up and down and say something like, "Daaaaaaaaaammmmnnnnn girl you be looking fine!!" Sometimes they will lean back, widen their eyes and cup their hand over their mouth for added emphasis when saying the "Daaaaammmmnnnn" Or they'll go, "Um, Um, Um." Black guys tend to be the most generous with the compliments but also do the most head-swiveling, unabashed ogling.
My friend who has a big ol' bootie always gets hit on by black guys though. I think it's definitely true that they like more junk in the trunk.
3) WhitesWhite guys will come up to you acting really friendly and say something like "Hi, I'm Bob. You have a really nice smile," or some other cheesy compliment.
It’s easier to be mean to white guys because they’re usually nice. They always try to strike up a conversation and make small talk like "Who are you here with?", "Are you having a good time??" or "Hi, I’m a corny doofus with no game.".
4) AsiansAsian guys will stare at you from afar but generally don't have the guts to come up and talk to you (unless they're really drunk or really ugly, in which case they have nothing to lose). They also bust that move where they dance beside you, hoping you'll let them join your circle of dancing girls. Did Asian guys invent that?
Because Asian guys don't talk to girls, someone invented booking clubs. In Korean clubs, "booking" is the phenomenon when a waiter brings/drags girls to a table of guys thereby facilitating a hook-up/love connection without the guy having to make any real effort or face rejection.
One of my most traumatic sexual harassment experiences was with a Korean dude when I was in elementary school. I was walking home from school and this guy in his mid thirties was sitting in his car and asked me for directions in Korean. I started to tell him when I noticed that this mother f***er had no pants on and was jacking off. He also had a pair of red zebra striped thongs on his lap. I remember it so vividly. I didn't know what to say or do! I ran away, but he turned his car around and followed me for a while. I lost him eventually or he gave up because we were on such a busy street. That was some traumatic stuff. I was too scared to tell my parents because I thought they would totally freak out and never let me leave the house alone again. This episode was particularly shocking because Asian people are generally conservative and none of my friends have had similar experiences with them. Asians are just closet pervs in denial.
I have been the victim of all these pick-up tactics and sexual harassment. You see what girls have to put up with our whole lives?
Comments (138)
aye ma!
viva la asian dancer invasion!
lol oh c'mon it's not only asians who try to invade the vagina circle is it??
Also does staring and then smiling make it a little better? hmm.
props for this one because its so true. and at some points, actually made me laugh. oh goodness, being a girl has its disadvantages. the hispanic portion reminded me of when i was in my school library this one time and i was waiting on line to check out a computer when these two spanish guys come up behind me to also check out a computer. but all they were doing the whole time was speaking rapidly in spanish and pointing and head nodding at different girls in the library. since i take spanish, i understood some of the words and caught "muy linda" and "caliente" haha hot and beautiful. surprise? no.
I think it only seems like Asians do that because you frequent Asians only places. I've seen it happen in all clubs. Guys just dance up to you.
-ray leeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeee
@Yosho - I should've mentioned that the author of this post is an Asian girl... I don't know if other races do the whole "circle of girls" dance as much.
Would be interested in hearing other people's experiences here!
THE RACISM INHERENT IN THIS ENTRY OFFENDS ME GOOD SIR
Or...not.
CRAP!!! We don't get that kind of crap up here in the boonies of rural Minnesota/Wisconsin. Dude would get locked up like THAT if any of that shit happened...
Remind me never to go to LA *puke*
@Drakonskyr - I should hope not, considering a woman wrote this. =P
You're just trying to be the tough guy, aren't you... >_>
@HeartOfPandora - Hah, I don't think I've ever been offended by anything on Xanga.
Unless it involved clowns...clowns trip me out.
This is so untrue. I'm Asian and I'm not a closet pervert. I'm a proud pervert and I let it be known. I have no interest in joining the circle of girls because they can't hang with my dance moves. Asian girls can't dance.
haha you really hit the nail on the head with this.
i've had the sort of hissing noise, which sounds like someone calling a dog, done at me by mexicans. i felt like i looked horrible one time they did this because i'd just jumped out of bed, but i suppose if you qualify as a girl, the details don't really matter to them.
awh the white guys sound so cute and harmless :D
Can't say that I've ever been the victim of a drive-by jack off....
I'm like 41 and old but this has been true since about 1983.
I haven't had the, er, honor of a drive-by jack-off, but I run into the men -- doesn't matter which race -- who think that they're God's gift and I should just be awe-struck that they took the time to talk to me. I have booty, so I understand that one most definitely! And living in Arizona, our construction crews are 99% Mexican...no catcalling, just lots of eyes watching as I walk. *shudders*
As a Mexican friend to the Black community, I'm completely offended by what you've stated about the Asians here! The stereotypes in this post are completely ignorant and uncalled for!
Except for the stuff about the Whites, that sounds about right.
I've never been hit on by an Asian guy. Maybe I'm just hideous to Asians!
Explains my voyeuristic tendencies. ;P
i wrote about my experience last week or so... it was the mexicans "hollaring" at me...
I'm in LA too... I SO get what you're saying! I'm over it too! I was walking out of a Denny's the other day and some black guy was like "hot damn lil mama" and then cupped his hand over his mouth and his eyes were going up and down. I'm black too, but it was too much!! I enjoy this post, lol.
drive-by jack-off!? wtf?
I think this must just happen in big cities. there's an 80% mexican population here, and I've never seen that shit.
@lovetakesmehighxx - Yah, it must be a LA thing.
I disagree with the only Asians joining the dance circle. I've seen it happen with blacks and whites at parties as well, though most of the time they just try to corner off one of the girls.
haha. yeah. i feel you on the booking club ordeal. i went to one in seoul and have never felt more harassed before. except maybe by european men.
I cannot even fathom the booking club idea - that's just pure arrogance and laziness if you ask me.
Barring the drive by jack off - I think all of the above is harmless. If those guys were hot no one would be complaining right? Take it as a compliment at least someone appreciates your ass.
Wow. She must have really had some terrible experiences. That's what makes the world turns!
I don't think it's a racial thing but mostly how one sees it.
And I've learned that some men of different colors hit on women in various ways. It's just...wrong to group anyone together based on color.