By
Mr. Macchiato
I was talking with a friend about our "numbers". No, not the number of
people we have slept with... but the "number" of our partners.
Actually we didn't get that specific - we were focusing more on what
number would turn us off.
Would it bother me if someone had been with 5 partners? 10? 20?
100??? I got to wondering how many people Carrie Bradshaw had been
with (I always thought she had been with a LOT of guys) and found this
awesome list of her lovers on
Yahoo Answers:
- Mr. Big
- Aidan
- The Russian (Mikhail Baryshnikov)
- The guy whose house she snoops thru & he catches her
- The Ray guy who was the bass player
- Her old boyfriend that ended up her f-buddy
- The writer with premature ejaculation issues
- The jackrabbit guy that was the best man in Charlotte's 2nd wedding
- The guy she sees in the bar with Stanford in one of the early episodes who had been her ex.
- Oh the guy with the pot. He lived with his mom & she caught them getting stoned.
- Her ex boyfriend that was in the mental institution
- The recovering alcoholic that became addicted to her & threw that fit in the street outside of her house.
- Jack Berger the guy who broke up with her on a post it note.
- The guy who was bi-sexual
- The young guy who didn't have any toilet paper in his apartment
- The guy who broke her heart when she was young
- The one that had the cabin in the woods.
- The politician guy that wanted her to pee on him.
Actually, she's "only" been with 18 guys (I thought it was a lot more). According to
this article , Charlotte is also at 18, Miranda's at 17, and Samantha is at 42 (41 men and 1 woman). 18 doesn't actually seem that high, since Carrie's character is 42
years old (although who knows how much sex she was having off camera). Her number doesn't really bother me
(although I wish she had better taste in men).
So what number
would bother
me? It actually wouldn't bother me if someone has slept with dozens of men (I am not particularly jealous). Here are my conditions:
- Ideally I don't know many (any?) of them
- I don't really ever want to talk about it
- No STDs
What number would bother you?
Comments (60)
Um...I don't know lol. Now that I'm married I don't have to worry about it. Luckily, my hubby had only been with one other.
I don't think I could be with someone who's had that many partners... They obviously don't know what they want, and I don't want to be another number on that list. If the rest of those people didn't work out, who says I will? I don't really want to take that chance, thanks.
I thought Aiden was the guy with the cabin in the woods.
It's a question about the past. Not much we can do about the past. It's the future that counts.
18 sounds like an awful lot especially since that doesn't even include any she would have slept with prior to the show.
To me having multiple partners only says negatives about a person's character. The circumstances surrounding the incidents would also be an important factor in my mind. In other words I would want to know about a persons history.
I'm not sure how big a difference it is, and I actually don't care all that much...
But there are a whole bunch of viruses and other things that end up getting shared because of all these sexual contacts. Most are essentially benign, but sometimes the thought of having shared all these little creatures weirds me out a bit.
And btw, considering that the shows been on for what? 7 years? (I'm completely guessing) you gotta figure it's probably twice that number from the pre-show years.
I think there's a definite age/total correlation. In other words, an older person is allowed more partners. So 20 partners for a 40 year old is not the same as a 16 year old with 20 partners.
That said, I think 20+ would bother a lot of guys no matter what their age.
yeah -- i'm going to have to go with the lower the better.
I think 10+ would bother me at my current age. No STDs, please!
i think it would depend on the ratio of
How many people slept with : Age
Now, if its relationships...I'd wonder how long a person waits til they consider themselves in a relationship?
For the record: I dont sleep around, im in a monogomous relationship... and if single, i doubt id be sleeping with anyone (to show where my opinion stands)
I only sleep with virgins; that way I don't feel like I'm being judged when the time comes.
I don't think the number itself matters...
but the number relative to your own-- what I mean is.. if I haven't
slept with any guy.. and my boyfriend's been casanova.. i'd be pretty
bothered.. but if i was like samantha (from sex and the city of course)
and my boyfriend was casanova.. then I don't think i'd mind. so.. i
guess as long as we're about even (i'd probably feel better if my
number was bigger than his though) i don't think i'd mind.--- but this
is just what i THINK... woudln't know.. never been in such a situation
The lower the better- I agree. Preferably none.
After briefly dating a guy who couldn't even remember all the people he'd dated or slept with, I decided that I'd much rather have someone who was saving the act for marriage, just like me!STDs, comparisons in bed to past lovers... just... no. Not my type. What a hassle. It's not for me.ideally should be able to count on one hand... realistically count on two. but then again i'm a tad conservative
never really thought about it. but if its a high number its never good news. i think 18 is a lot. for me atleast. maybe not for a 42 year old then i guess its ok if you're still single and not in a serious relationship or married. but for a 25 yr old, its nympho behavior talking.
I think once the time has come that someone is no longer a virgin, it doesn't really matter as long as they don't have an STD. I don't think everyone should save themselves for marriage, not that I judge people who do, but in all honesty, if someone has lost their virginity does it really matter if it was to 1 person or 500?
Let's say it was 500. So what? What does that mean for your relationship? Nothing. It just means that in the past they had a lot of sex. If the other person only slept with 500 people one time, someone who slept with one person for two years could have had more sex.
As long as they are tested and proved themselves to be disease free, it shouldn't really matter.
@Southernlass - not to contradict what you were sayin, but i think that the more people slept with and in numbers higher than 18...you dont know what kind of people this other people has slept with, or what theyve told your interest. I think its safer to have sex with another person who is only sleeping with you, even if its just friends with benifets ( have never been in the situaton, but in the idea)...STDs can remain dormant even with a doctor visit... and Ive never known anyone (my age) that has forced thier parteners to get tested every time ....
but even if I didnt already have a boyfirnd, the guy was proven to have an STD, and was relationship material... if they have had more than 10 parteners and are in my age group.... thats too many ( personally i would prefer as close to zero as posssible...10 even makes me queesy)
haha. sorry about the ramble!
There's no specific number. I guess it would bother me if the guy is keeping count.
@Southernlass - 500 I would judge.
I'm not a very sexual person, so I think anything above two would bother me.
honestly, i wouldn't want to know. what's in the past should stay there. however, your conditions sound right... no STDs
I'm a here and now person. As long as the past doesn't come up and bite me in the ass, I'd be OK.
I don't know that I ever been presented with a situation like this at all, but I would say that as long as they're with me, ONE partner and no STDs. It's not much to ask really. Whatever previous history they have doesn't matter to me, it's what's happening now and how they're treating me that truly matters.
I would assume that 10+ would bother me. But i rather not know about their pass lovers and i sure as hell would like it if they don't take out their old experiences with me. I actually know most of the girls my lovers been with and it doesn't bother me too much; except for ONE. There's always one that you totally wish you never knew and that ONE just totally throws me off. I can't change the pass nor can i do anything about it now. It grosses me out; but in the end i love him so i stay.
I agree with southernlass
So you've been with 500 of the wrong people, that's so sad for you. The higher the more sorry I would feel for that person. You can be with just one person and contract a disease. As long as I'm not friends with any of the 500. I must admit though I may question your judgment (if they're mingers, which will happen at 500).
I mean are you really going to sit there and make lists together? what if your number is higher? is that how you want to be judged?
I wouldn't ask. I don't need to know. What's important is that you're with me now (and only me).
@Giraffney - aiden was the one with the dog. He bought Carrie a really crappy ring that Miranda helped choose and then a better one that Samantha helped him choose.