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Miss Double ShotMy friend Nora had known Nick for a while before he started housesitting a luxury 35th floor apartment for his cousin.
Nick had always wanted to go after her, but because they lived on opposite ends of two different boroughs, travel was impractical - it'd take about an hour and a half one way - and this was the perfect solution. The apartment was close to her workplace and gave him an excuse to say "drop by on your way home!"
So she did.
Because of the apartment, Nick was automatically 145% sexier and Nora loved being let into the place by a doorman, going up in the elevator to see the view of Manhattan and how she felt in the space that was so different from what she was used to. I heard all sorts of delightful tales of what their hook-ups were like - "kissing is so much better when you're up high!" she insisted.
They both knew they were on borrowed time as Nick cousin's move-back-in date loomed, but neither reacted well after he moved back to his grimy place and Nora lost interest.
"I don't get it," she said afterward. "After he moved back to Brooklyn, we realized that we really had nothing in common."
If you ask me, she fell for the apartment and not for him - it was escapism where they could both be different people in a different environment, and when it came time for them to be themselves again, the whole thing fell apart.
Have you ever fallen for something other than a personality - maybe someone's looks, money or apartment?
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I think I have probably been guilty on more than one occassion of falling in love with the idea of love - the idea of a relationship, a partner etc - and then realising that I wasn't in love with the actually person.
Falling for someone because they like you is also a danger...
hmm...i think im guilty of falling in love with the idea that i built of someone. i was naive back then. still probably am now but much lesser.
kinda reminds me of what happens when you go overseas... you know it's not going to last.. so u just have fun for the time being... later on the strings will be cut-- whether you want to or not.
interesting post!~
last for too long. At the end of the day, personality is still the major thing.
I've fallen for a part of someone that I think is there.
I see the good in everyone, but sometimes it makes me blind to the bad in them. It's damaged me in the past.
my deadbeat was a pretty talker. but that's all he was. i wasn't in love, but deep enough in the relationship for my life to get wrecked.
good thing he's gone now.
back in high school, being a guy and having a car really helps with the ladies. call it shallow but it is what it is. having a nice car or fancy home i find are tools. they don't make up for a lack of personality since it bores people to tears.
It must have been fun while it lasted. :]
I don't have the experience..
I always fall for someone's looks, but if they don't have the personality to back it up then I lose interest quickly. :)
Isn't that how all relationships work, anyway?
I fell for a guy who was a great kisser and not much else. We had nothing in common. He wasn't all that attractive either, but everytime he kissed me none of the other stuff mattered. And everytime I came back to my senses I said that was the last time - until of course the next time would come around.
Ladies, I drive a Cadilliac Deville and own a motorcycle, in my big ol' southern double wrap around porch ass home, so fall in love ladies, fall in love..... cuz im waitin.
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Definately! The thrill of something new, the unknown, someone's attractive personality, it hooks a person.
@miss_prettyinpink - I'm so glad that someone else thinks that! I know you say to not judge a book by its cover, but most people do it. And 9/10 times, it will be the way someone looks that attracts you to a person. So I think that looks are important for that reason. Lets face it, if you were going out on the pull, you would bother with your appearance wouldn't you?
How often would someone see another person in a bar and think 'hey I'll go over there and talk to them. They're not that good looking but you know what, I just bet they've got a great personality...'
@Jet_Cabusao - Hahaha I just bet they have a great personality! That's like the ultimate insult. :)
I do think that looks are important for attraction initially, but it's the personality that keeps you around. And when I like someone's personality, they get more attractive to me.
@miss_prettyinpink - Absolutely. What is it about that when you start to really like someone they get better looking? The flip side of that as well is the most gorgeous looking guy can suddenly become extremely ugly - and not just unattractive but actually off-putting - if he turns out to be a complete jackass.
@Jet_Cabusao - exactly
I've fallen for a guy's apartment before... I'm not gonna lie.
I think I've fallen a lot for "trophy" boyfriends in the past, or fallen for the expectations of what our future could be like. Like if they seemed to be a good package deal, then it was hard to give up that they were an attractive, ambitious, and social guy who seemed to have the right personality and things... Though I realize true compatibility and how they treat me is a lot mroe important, but I've definitely let myself be swept away with the dream or stayed too long bc of their image.