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Miss Double ShotI'm an addict.
Every morning, before I think, talk to anyone or do anything, I need coffee. I've been drinking it for ten years now and am completely useless without it. Guys I've dated or datedish have never really questioned it, but I don't think any of them really understand, either.
While it's not exactly a hard drug, it's still something that I have trouble controlling and that is necessary to my sanity.
I guess it's hypocritical of me because I'd never date a smoker - the whole idea of smoking is unappealing to me - and yet I don't kick my habit because it's never been a problem in my relationships. I do wonder, though, if I'd quit caffeine if the person I dated had a problem with it.
. . . probably not.
Have you ever dated someone with a vice?
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I have turned two different boyfriends into coffee drinkers. I have no shame...
And I think that caffeine and cigarettes are two completely different things. Caffeine isn't nearly as bad for you. Coffee doesn't have all the added chemicals that cigarettes do, and it tastes better too.
I think everyone has a vice. I couldn't date someone whose vice was something destructive (like excessive drinking or unreasonable thrill-seeking), but my boyfriend's vice (video games) is okay. It just depends on the person.
I dated a smoker who told me he was quitting. He never smoked around me really but I could always smell it on him and if I asked him, he would fess up. It bothered me a lot.
Being a coffee drinker myself, I don't see the point in giving up coffee though
My vice is pearl milk tea. I had to limit myself to one cup a day. I just can't stop!! :)
No, never dated
Many, given we all do.
However, if one cannot give up a substance for a relationship, that is more than a vice...that is a flat out addiction by all accepted professional definitions.
Yes. I can't stand it when guys are so hooked on video games that they'll call you WHILE they're playing. They can't just press the pause button...Video games ended a relationship.
Don't have anything truly against coffee drinking, although I have problems with smoking. Although I do think that not being so addicted to coffee would be a plus to me. *shrugs* Coffee has its own health problems with sugar, caffeine, etc., but it doesn't hurt me.
-Anna.
dude I have the same problem sometime have like two or three a day, but at least it isn't booze.
The only vice (if you can call it that) which my partner has is eating too much.Otherwise he does not smoke or have alcohol or gamble(thank god).
Anyway he has now started cutting down on carbs and sweets.
The coffee is still continuing(cold these days).I think a glass or two a day isn't all that bad.
I had been addicted to coffee when I was in med school.There came a time that the intake became so much that I was walking around like a zombie.I finally gave up coffee and switched over to tea.I now love tea.
I dated a guy who smoked pot first thing in the morning - much like your coffee. I left him to it - even though I don't smoke the stuff.
I guess at then end of the day - this is how I found him and it's not for me to change him as long as he understands (which he did) that I'm not going to join him.
Ok I am a women who smokes.. now saying it tastes better might be your opinion and a few others but that isnt true for others.. including myself.. Im not a big fan of coffee myself.. I do love the smell of it, but thats about it. Granted smoking and coffee are two different things, but they are vices as she said. Coffee has caffenine which you become addicted too..Oh and one more thing... yes you can smell smoke on a smokers breathe..but damn...have you ever smelled someones breathe who had drank coffee eariler in the day...?
Anyways I said my piece nice blog!
yes, most definitely, but they don't bother me because at least she trusts me enough to tell me them.
my girlfriend loves that i don't put up a fake 'heart of gold' pretense like everyone else she knows.
hahah, our relationship is a bit unorthodox.
it could be worse... its just coffee. im sure if you wanted to you could cut back, but if its not harming you..... enjoy!
I've dated smokers and drinkers (not alcoholics).