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Miss Double ShotMarching band was a big part of my college career, and one of the strict rules was that girls either had to have their hair braided for performances or cut it short enough to fit it all under a hat. I chose the latter because I'm inordinately lazy and knew that it wasn't worth it to wake up early to have my hair tortured, sprayed and pinned.
Floyd openly admits that's he's got a type; he loves redheads with long hair (his ex-GF and I could be sisters, we look so much alike) . . . so although I warned him that it'd be shorter, I don't think he realized just how short it'd be. He smiled when he saw me and hesitatingly said that he liked it, but I could tell that he was freaked out by the sudden drastic change.
I knew that Floyd'd still like me even if I looked different, but I became self-conscious as the weeks went by and I felt less and less like a girl.
"Thank god band's over," we both said when the season had finished and I waited for my hair to grow out to an acceptable (read: non-dudeish) length.
I think the whole three month period of bad hairdos and uncomfortable feelings went relatively well because we both knew it was only temporary and I'd warned him beforehand, but if a guy I was involved with changed his appearance suddenly, as superficial as it sounds, I think I'd be really upset.
Would a sudden change in appearance be a relationship dealbreaker?
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I wouldn't care if either of us changed our appearance.
If a gf of mine got upset because I changed my appearance, either deal or hit the road if it bothers you that much.
well i'm thinking of returning to my boyfriend after this summer after 4 months of being away with much longer hair. I know most guys do prefer long hair and my boyfriend even admits he like long hair better. so i guess it depends on HOW you suddenly change your appearance. I had short hair since we started dating and its added some serious length to itself :)
I'd hope that if I changed my appereance significantly(hair or otherwise) people would still think of me the same, but I would understand that it would take I while to get used to. Also, I like this post because I myself am in marching band and even though our director isn't strict on appearence generally, my purple/blue hair has become an issue. We came to the compromise that it could stay as long as I washed it out by state.
My mom came out to stay with us for a month after my son was born. In that time period, my step0dad grew a goatee. I think it was shaved back off within a day of my mom getting back home. She was not pleased...
PS- then again there's the story of the first time I cut all my hair off, in high school. I was dating my husband at the time, and I went to meet him and his parents at a restaurant right after chopping all my hair off. He walked into the restaurant lobby and saw this girl and thought to himself "Whoa, she's cute..." and then realized he was looking at me. lol .
OK so... Is this a real weblog, or do you just copy paste other people's weblogs that you find witty and/or amusing? Your sex seems to change every other post. Unless you're just posting up fiction that is. Either way it doesn't make a difference on the enjoyment of the blog, but as a reader, I at least feel a bit entitled to know whether what I'm reading is true or not and if it is, why you keep changing genders o.o
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@Ironstove - There are two of us writing about dating on the blog: one male, one female. We'll be adding names to our blog posts soon, to make that more clear
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hmmn, if it were a bad cut, i might be a little less affectionate until i was used to it, but it definately wouldnt be a dealbreaker.
I used to date a guy who like long, naturally-colored hair. Every time I got a trim he would grimace when looking at me. He didn't last too long, and after we broke up, I cut my hair to above my shoulders and got a really drastic color treatment. It was great.
depends on the sudden change. if he became a she, definite deal breaker. a little hair chopped off not so much