Wednesday, 11 June 2008
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Women over 28 = Insane
A guest blog by manilajones
As a 30-year old single man, I’ve been expected to date women who are around my age. But, I’ve realized that something happens to women at around 28 years old that just causes them to go completely berserk. Women over 28 are not looking for boyfriends anymore. They’re no longer looking for people to have fun with or new people to talk to. Women over 28 are no longer looking for nice or intelligent guys. They’re no longer looking for someone who can hold a decent conversation. They’re no longer looking for someone who can take them to Mammoth every winter or someone who can show them the nightlife on the Westside. Rather, women over 28 are all looking for husbands and fathers for their future children.
They feel that they need to get married and have children STAT, and this kind of mentality makes women over 28 kind of insane. No matter what they say, women over 28 are only looking for sperm and someone who will stand next to them in the picture for the annual Christmas card. I don’t know what happens to women when they turn 28 that makes them go bonkers, but they’re all looking to get hitched and knocked up ASAP, and many of them end up “falling in love” with the first sucker they meet after they turn 28. Why do you think so many people get married by the time they’re 30? Is it because of love or is it because of desperation?
Sadly, their desperation to get married makes them oblivious to the things that are important to having a real, loving relationship (such as love, respect, honor, and a “normal guy”). I really don’t need any of that, and that’s why I will never date a woman older than 28 years old anymore. I want someone to appreciate me for who I am, and that takes time. I don’t want someone to “fall in love” with me just because I am 30 and have sperm.I suppose it isn’t fair that women have a biological time clock, and that they can only bear children up to a certain age. I mean, I can have children when I’m 80 years old, and that hardly seems fair. (The more I think about it, it seems kind of ideal to have children later in life when I’m retired. I mean, I’m too busy with work and having a social life nowadays, so why not have kids when I’m rich and retired and have nothing else to do?) I suppose that has a lot to do with women’s desperation and low self-esteem after hitting 28. Also, I suppose we still live in an old-fashioned society where an older, single woman with no children is considered an “old maid”. That’s really not fair, too.
It is true that society unjustifiably puts more pressure on women than men to get married and have children. A lot of things have contributed to women’s social status, and I’ll admit that men have a lot to do with it. Men, Christianity, tradition,government, religion, and women’s indifference have all oppressed women throughout history. But at the end of the day, IT’S NOT MY PROBLEM.
Sure, it’s “my problem” in a way because I have a sense of stewardship to my society, but what the hell am I supposed to do? I’m not misogynistic. I don’t hate women. I’m nice to them. I have good manners around them. I support a woman’s right to choose. I support women’s suffrage. I voted for Hilary Clinton on the sole basis that she is a woman (allegedly). I’ve even gone on record and said that female is the superior gender and that God is a woman. But, as a man, what more can I do? I highly doubt that me dating cougars will make any significant impact in the pro-women movement. (If women really wanted to stop their oppression, then they should stop doing what is expected of them. They should stop being so desperate after hitting 28 and realize that getting married and having babies isn’t really all that important.)
From now on I’m only going to date women 26 and younger. Women 26 and under aren’t insane like older women. Their judgment isn’t clouded by the idea that they need to have babies or get married immediately. They’re more care-free and open-minded. They’re more willing to listen to what you have to say and learn new things. They’re more likely to laugh at all my jokes. And most importantly, they have all the time in the world to appreciate a person like me (and vice-versa). Women 26 and younger don’t know what the hell they want in a guy, which is great because with me, women don’t know what they’re going to get.
I understand that not all women fall into these general categories, but because of the biological time clock, a woman older than 28 is more likely to be insane than a woman younger than 28. I have to go with the odds.
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Interesting article with a twist opinion the marriage issue. Seems like you've had some issues with the women you've dated lately. I'm 28 and haven't yet reached that stage of sperm hunting but I've heard that when you do decide you want a baby that it hits you like a ton of bricks and you can't think of anything else. Kind of like when a man sees a new LCD big screen he'd like to have. But on the other hand a man at 30 years old is still viewed just as drastically as sort of a pitiful bachelor who is not strong enough to support a woman and their children. If you thought having a wife and children wasn't some mind numbing oppressive societal right of passage than you would have been married a long time ago. Thats why I'm not married now. I don't see it as some neverending romantic trist where you both never get tired of each other. I see it as something that needs to be done,kind of like scrubbing out the bottom of the garbage can, but it doesn't have to be done right this minute b/c there are SOOO many other exciting and more importantly fun things to do with my time right now. It's part fear and part laziness but with an ongoing divorce rate at 50% I think I'll stay an old maid :)
Um, I think this is the most demeaning, sexist, and condescending post I have ever read. I normally try to be civil in my commenting, but dude... what an ass. Get over yourself.
Then again maybe you're being sarcastic and I missed it. I certainly hope so.
Date women that can't have kids, don't want kids or already have enough of 'em.
well you definitely shouldn't date korean women then because korean women over the age of 18 are the equivalent to non korean women over the age of 28. ehhh at least the women i know.
wow this was an interesting post.. I don't know if I should be offended by this. and i'm not 28 but some day i want to have kids and when i'm 28 i will probably hear the clock ticking. it is unfair to be a women that wants kids, because we have a time limit unlike you men.
you make it seem like it's wrong for girls to want to have kids and i'm not cool with that. i can see how you don't want to be pressured to having kids or being married and that's your thing but you should insult girls that just want kids.
when you're old and decide have kids, you will probably be too old to run around with them and pick them up and do all those things that kids want to do, that's why it's great to have kids when you are young, and you can take care of them till they are old enough to take care of themselves, I mean you could die before your kids really grow up. *shrugs*
i wouldn't say insane, but yes women over 28 hears the biological ticking of course. that's not to say they won't stop and enjoy the conversation on their dates. i don't remember ever hearing a woman open up a topic "so what's your sperm count lately" or "when do you want to get married" i think they would be smart enough to know those questions alone would drive a man away, crazy or not. as for babies, i've heard that the risk of complications of women over 25 increases dramatically during pregnancy and can get worse mid-30's. Also I am sure men can produce sperm up to 80 years old, but that doesn't mean they are the best swimmers. over age, those sperms will not have the same strength of a 30 year old passing through a volatile atmosphere of a uterus and being able to survive enough to penetrate the egg. so to summarize, getting older is never a good thing...
as an almost-28 yr old woman, i can attest that the biological clock-ticking gets a little louder in our brains, but i agree that marriage and sperm-hunting shouldn't be our primary reason for dating. i'd love to get married and have kids in the future, but i want it to be with the right person at the right time, not the next decent guy because my mom is harping on me for still being single.
but i do have one bone to pick: what about the 27yr old women? we're just in the twilight zone/no-mans-land b/c we're not 26 anymore, but bordering on 28 aka insane-in-the-membrane age? that sucks :T
Interesting post, but insanely mocking women. Under 28 years old don't know what they want, over 28 = insane. The hell why you still want to date women? Can't live with them, but can't live without them?
for some odd reason, i think you're writing all these controversial-type posts lately because you're feenin attn. i'm not hating, it's just an observation. but then, i haven't really subscribed to you for that long, and i think only lately i've been quite perturbed about your observations. kind of odd, too, that you get stressed out when ppl react strongly to what you're writing. like, are you THAT clueless? come on bro, you have to have at least some sense about what you write.
anyhow, i understand your preference to be appreciated for being you - that's probably the root of your frustration with this one. it's unfair, though, to judge all women of a certain category a certain way, although you noted "generally." how do you really approach it then? by your generalization, or "generally"? i'm sure you don't have a lot of trouble with women getting at you, it's more the quality of them, right? i'm sure everyone knows that they, themselves, hold value. then their standards are shot to all mighty hell and they forget that others do too. maybe it's just your way of dealing with the uncertainties in life if you're moving with "generalization."
i have to be honest here, i understand all this. but give women a freakin break. your mother is one for crying out loud.
now go enjoy your weekend and stop thinking so much.
@eskirara - oh, that was all aimed towards manilajones. didn't realize this was someone else's blog. i guess i should tell him all of this, but i'm sure he'll read it.
my fiance and i turn 28 this year and i can say with certainty that his biological clock is louder than mine. though...i have been buying a lot of clothes from the maternity section at target lately. their selection is really cute!
I just want to let you know that this blog makes you seem like an extremely insecure man who is afraid of commitment and wants to justify his interest in younger women.
but that's just the way it seems, right?