By
Mr. Macchiato(
continued from Part 1: SURPRISE! We're dating!)
I wasn't sure how to handle my surprise date with Aliana. I think she knew from the inside-out sweatshirt I was wearing that I didn't think of her in that way. From that point on, we both had a shared goal: to survive lunch with out either of us getting embarrassed (i.e. pretend everything is 100% A-OK normal). It was a tough job, but we were both up for it and we both pretended our way through the meal.
After lunch, I felt kind of bad so I walked her to the Student Center where she was headed to check her mail. It was time to end the date and say goodbye... but how should I do it? Ugh, I've always hated the end of a bad date. I never know if I should:
A) Pretend we're not really parting ways and sorta
just wave goodbye while babbling something friendly (like umm, "It was great to see you, I'm sure I'll see you around, talk to you later!" *wave*),
B) Casually put out my hand to
shake hands, while babbling to cover the awkwardness of the situation
C) Use the "
two-handed handshake": "shake hands, smile, nod, make eye contact and then add an all-important hand-over-hand motion"
D) Go for a
quick and friendly hug, or
E) Go for the
quick hug + cheek kiss (the Advanced/European option).
This is one of those things that I always struggle with. Now that I'm older and more smooth (haha), I usually err towards being more friendly (Option D if I'm sober, Option E if I'm drunk)... but sometimes that backfires. When I went on my first date with my future wife, I went in for a hug... and she quickly stuck out her hand and said, "Nice to meet you!" Oops...
Ok so say that you had been in my shoes with Aliana. You've just finished a first date, and it's fairly clear that you guys didn't really hit it off. But you want to be friendly and not just walk away.
How do you end the date - Option A, B, C, D, or E ... or something else entirely?
Comments (24)
I would have sex with her and then go for option "b." Yay!!
Only happened twice, both times I flat out mentioned it could have gone better and suggested we go do something to rectify it (neither time involved sex as the rectification :D)
i've been in that exact situation. luckily, we both actually went for A. or.... maybe i went for A and he just sorta followed my lead.
whatever... doesn't matter. it was A.
Being a girl, I'd be fine with a guy just waving goodbye at the end of a bad date.
I'd probably go with A.
I would probably wind up doing something more along the lines of option A though if it was a friend then I might go a head and go for a hug. I can only be sure that it would be highly awkward and bumbling.
Usually I hug, but if it was a bad date (and the guy was still showing signs of being into me and hoping for that kiss) then I'd wave to avoid leading them on.
wave goodbye. especially if i didn't even know it was a date. just keep that belief going.
D.
What about a cyanide pill concealed in one's shoe? It's saved me on several bad dates. Never leave home without it.
I would go with a hug and a cheek kiss, just because the way I was raised, pretty much everyone recieved that as a greeting or a goodbye. so if you don't want the person to feel too bad it's a good way to go.
oh man...I would probably just wave. I wish i was smooth enough to go for a quick hug :P
I would go with D. Everything else seems too awkward to me.
Humorous story, I have to say.
I'm all for A. It would be even more awkward any other way. And who shakes hands after a date? Now that would just be weird. :l
It depends on how badly the date went. If it was a disaster (and by disaster i mean, no conversation, or bad conversation, date picking on your food, making racist comments etc), i would go for A. If it was an alright date, conversation was okay, then i would go for B.Â
A, mos-def, especially for creepers. But if I felt sure the guy wouldn't get the wrong message, though, I'd go for D or E. NEVER C. What is that!?
cool! it'll try that.
A.
Bad dates = bad chemistry, so no touchy. But that's just me. Some women might want reassurance that it wasn't their fault. But she seemed to know from the start like you did.
If you skeeved me out then no physical contact whatsoever. It avoids me having to spend the next three hours scrubbing my hands surgeon-style until the skin cracks and bleeds,thus forcing my body to make new untouched skin.
But if he was a nice guy and things just weren't clicking, I'd say one of those hugs with the distance between.
Love that ref to "Advanced/European option"!
you could always give her the handsome black man handshake to throw her off guard.
I prefer smoke bombs, making my escape like a ninja. Failing that, i would go option D. Like a ninja
eh. It's over. What's the difference?
Decisions...
A is best if its obvious you didn't have a connection then you'll both be much more comfortable when its all over & theres no need to pretend its any different. Just wave goodbye and get the hell outta there.