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Monday, 20 May 2013

  • Sharing is Caring... or Not?


    This post was submitted anonymously.

    It was just a regular work day for me sitting in a cramped room at work which we call our "office space" for myself and two of my co-workers.  We talk and joke on a daily basis and when we have phone conversations with our significant others, none of us really care if the others are listening.  I mean, it's not like we talk about anything inappropriate.  Just about our children, confirming future plans, or what's for dinner later.  But one thing that one of my co-workers had mentioned on the phone, really got me thinking.  
     
    She asked her husband of 13 years if she could "borrow" some of his
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  • Phone Calls: Dead and Dread in the Age of Miscommunication


    I was talking with a friend of mine a couple days ago about communication in today's generation. Specifically, methods of communication and the inherent psychology behind it. It applies to initial courting between people, but also to relationships. Today's generation has access to a variety of electronic communication: email, texting, FB, Twitter, etc. As a result, we've come to rely heavily on these means. The main benefit to them is their safety. They're low pressure, you can think about your response and take as long as you like to reply. So they're not scary. 

    The downside to this safety is that electronic communications are often fraught with miscommunication. The person on the other end can't read your emotion through your words, and so we're forced to pepper our texts and emails with "lol," "haha," and smiley faces. Think of how much implied meaning a winky face can carry. It can completely change the meaning of an entire sentence! It's all massively stupid to me, but sadly necessary so that people don't think that you're a sociopath or an asshole. More Here...

  • The Destination Wedding Dilemma


    Two of my best friends got engaged two years ago and I couldn’t have been happier.  I am the person that constantly watches romantic comedies even when the rational part of my brain knows it’s ridiculous.  What can I say? Sometimes I just want Ryan Gosling and Rachel McAdams to show me what true love is.  I’m corny, sue me.

    My friend’s stories are my real life romantic comedy equivalent. Thinking about how happy they are always makes me smile. My friend Amy spent the better part of a year chasing a guy with a girlfriend. “She’s just so lame! They won’t make it 3 months” she would whine whenever he’d come around with her.  She made it her mission to prove how much more amazing she was.

    Her plan didn’t work. He loved ‘lame girl’ and Amy spent every weekend for 8 months locked in her room, crying her eyes out.  My friends and I knew it was time for a “Friendtervention.” We sat her down and gave her a dose of reality. The bottom line was that he didn’t like her and she had to move on.  Four months later she met Connor and two years after that she’s engaged. More Here...

Sunday, 19 May 2013

  • Rebuilding Love and Trust in an Old Broken Relationship? Help!


    This is going to sound extremely complicated, and it is.  Please bear with me, try not to judge too harshly.  I have known my youngest son's dad for 4 years now.  I got pregnant within the first month of being together, and moved in with him a couple months after with my other two boys.  This is not the greatest of scenarios, but we made the best of it, and it did bring us closer.  We had a system worked out, where I took care of all the domestic duties and he went to work, which I think is something that he wanted.  So, we were rather happy and a family with a system that worked, and as a result, a deep love developed. Yet, as time went on, we had fights as all couples do, and as I became heavily pregnant (something he wasn't ready for), it seemed the more I needed him the more he would withdraw and pull away.

    Issues that needed to be addressed were swept under the rug, he avoided me, and was not there for me though I tried my hardest to take care of him and my other kids, and tried to be there for him.  Every time I tried to address the issues we had, he'd say I was starting a fight and he'd walk out of the room—even sometimes leaving completely. I understand he needed his space, and being rushed into a family was something he couldn't handle. More Here...

  • Should We Just Leave the Past in the Past?


    I used to be a little crazy as a girlfriend. Not the overbearing or controlling type, but I was a little pushy about uncovering details about my boyfriend's past relationships. I don't know why I wanted to know. Once I did, I wish I didn't. I trust Andrew, I always have, but the thought of him with other girls really bothered me, and still does. 
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Saturday, 18 May 2013

  • Keeping Up with the Exes


    I was wondering the other day if there are any people out there who DON'T stalk their exes online at one point or another. With Facebook and social media being what it is, most people I know have at one point or another checked up on how an ex is doing. Some are even still openly friendly which is not a big deal. I wonder though, is it okay to snoop into each other's lives and to be so intrusive as to stalk them online to find out the details? 

    I know people will say that if they don't want their business known, don't put it online for the public to see. But for only $39.95, you can purchase all sorts of information on your ex that they did not post online. More Here...

  • Seperate but Equal Lives

    This is something I have spent a a great deal of time thinking about lately. Perhaps it's the immature child inside or maybe I'm on to something, not that it is by any means a novel way of thinking: living single but being in a relationship. I'm not shy to admit that I truly love being alone, meaning both in the presence of others and being single. It's a means for me to shut down the chaos roaming around in my mind that quite literally drives me insane. When I am in a relationship (and even when I am in the company of others) my brain will not stop going, making it incredibly difficult for me to concentrate.

    This period of my life is one where I need Karate-Kid-Ninja-Like concentration because I am at the very start of my career and life adventure and full concentration is what will help me to achieve me goals, of course. Being in a relationship, I'm sorry to say, distracts me tremendously. Maybe it's just me. More Here...

Friday, 17 May 2013

  • The DOs of Getting Over a Breakup


    This post was submitted by Marius Rizea.


    It goes without saying that breakups are painful experiences, especially when you aren't the one who puts an end to the relationship. Nevertheless, sooner or later you will come to terms with what happened and the sun will shine again on your street. But meanwhile you need to stay on top of the situation.

    Right now, the roller coaster feelings leave the impression you are broken beyond repair. But with the right adjustments you will move on with fewer scars than you imagine.


    Cut the contact. 
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  • Making Moves: A Follow Up


    This is a follow up to a previous post entitled: Making Moves: When Flirting Isn't Enough, which I wrote about my friend and co-worker Kim and her love-interest and longing for Owen. 

    I had high hopes for Kimberly in her pursuit for Owen and his lack of making any solid moves on Kim despite the obvious flirting, sleeping in the same bed together and discussion of penis size. I truly felt like she was making progress; she seemed happier seeing her as of late and she recently put down the scotch and switched to Riesling (that's a big deal). My hopes hit a high point this week while sitting at the bar after work with her. More Here...

Thursday, 16 May 2013

  • A Conjecture: Why Men Are the Way We Are


    I'm a 23-year-old man, and when it comes to relationships, I've been around the block a few times. I've seen plenty of perfect relationships go south, and thanks to my parents, I've witnessed my fair share of divorces.

    I've been spending a lot of time with other guys my age this past year, just going out for a few beers and whatnot, and I'm starting to notice certain trends amongst them and myself. We have Billy, the social guy with the humor and wit to light up any conversation. We've got Josh, a guy who seems to chase more tail than Tiger Woods ever did. And then there's Jake, the quiet and contemplative guy who's always trying to get the rest of us to "respect women for more than just their vaginas."

    Anyway, as I've been exploring social media and with my own interaction with other guys my age, I've noticed that most men seem to focus on one of two things: The romantic side of relationships...or the physical side. I think most women on Datingish would classify them as "Nice Guys" or "Assholes." More Here...

  • Am I Really That Unlikable?


    I would like to start off by saying that I make the worst friends on the planet; I meet horrible people.  I don't know of anyone who manages to find the people that I do.  I get all the rejects, all the people other people were like "later" to.  I think it's because I'm a kind and considerate person, and I take a lot of dirt, so I attract people who walk all over me, people that other people won't put up with.  Same thing goes with dating.

    I meet guys who are not worth a twinkle in the night.  They do not guide me home like the north star, but they serve as a reminder of my futile place in this life.  They take advantage of me and leave me out to dry the second they can, just like my "friends."

    Take 'A' for example.  I dated A for a few weeks.  He was a strange guy.  He ate all of my food and wouldn't pay for his dates. More Here...

  • Love the Easy Way


    I have never been one to J-Date, OK Cupid date, Christian Mingle, Match.com date or try my luck at swimming in a sea of Plenty of Fish. I have never been partial to online dating but respect those who use it and have found love and or successful relationships on it. I must confess though, I had created a Match.com profile and an OK Cupid account once out of sheer curiosity and I found the experience to be unnerving. I had created profiles to see what kind of response I would receive and once I discovered, I quickly deleted them.

    Pardon me for being an asshole but these men creeped me out and I thought, "not for me, no way." Their pictures were unattractive and cyberspace was not the way I wanted to start my story when relaying to my grandchildren how their grandfather and I met. So unromantic, I thought. As a stated before, I respect those people who utilize them. I am aware that some of these dating sites are not just for people seeking stable relationships with shared interests but still, so unromantic (I'm a romantic, so sue me). More Here...

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