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Sunday, 15 November 2009

  • "When You Try Your Best, But You Don't Succeed"



    Throughout the years, many of my friends (and some relatives too) have spoken openly to me about their partners.  I have heard my fair share of complaints and bitching ranging from trivial matters to more serious ones.  Of course, I have bitched and complained too. 

    I've often wondered why people who seem so in love at the start of their relationship end up either:

    a) losing interest in their partner;

    b) trying to change or fix them;

    c) cheating on them in the real or virtual world;

    d) hating and resenting them

    e) using various form of escapism (e.g. work; internet; substance abuse; hobbies; nights out with friends etc) to avoid their partner.

    These are just a few, there are other options people can resort to when they are not that 'happy' in their relationship.  I'd just focus on (b) because many of us have done this and today' song post is related with that theme. I am posting the beautiful song: Fix You by Coldplay.  Personally, I think it's one of the saddest and most realistic contemporary song I've heard.  I can surely connect to these lyrics in my marriage and I wonder how many other people can too? More Here...

  • The Teacher-Student Relationship


    As a high schooler, I pretty much spend my life in school. Last year I had this teacher who was a little weird. He kind of picked on me and a few other girls, but nothing that I couldn't handle. So I suffered through the year and just hoped that I wouldn't get him as a teacher again.

    But things never happen the way we want. I have him again this year. And he decided that was his invitation to harass me constantly. Within the first week of school he started complementing my clothing choices. One day at school, we had doomsday as part of a spirit week for our big rivalry game. (Everyone wears all black.) My outfit was completed with fishnets and a rather short black skirt. I walked into this teachers class and sat down at my desk in the front row. The bell rang and he comes up to my desk and says, "This may cross a boundary, but you look hot in black." I got mad and told him that it was totally inappropriate and the rest of the class agreed with me. More Here...

Saturday, 14 November 2009

  • Second Chances: Recipe for Heart Ache?

    I really try to put up a strong front but the truth is when it comes to matters of the heart I am as weak as everyone else.  I know I said Bachelorette Boy's story ended a few weeks ago... but he is persistent.

    I thought he had blocked me on AIM because he disappeared for about a month (maybe he was on The Bachelorette! lol) but sure enough Tuesday morning I put up an away message, get in the shower and come back to a message... from him... saying "Aw the movie Up comes out today.  I had really wanted to see that with you :(  I hope you're well"

    I had a heart attack and died for about 12 minutes.  What?  WHAT?  Why?  Why now?  Why are you contacting me???  Because he wants what he can't have.  He wants control.  He wants to win.  Also, (as I predicted) he misses me.

    My friends are pissed.  They want to smack him. 

    My mom?  Asked if I believe in second chances.  Do I believe in second chances?  Do I think maybe he deserves one?

    WHAT?  A second chance?  For him??? Are you insane? More Here...

  • Why Rape Fantasies are Wrong

    I read this article about rape fantasies and it really upset me about people having them. From a rape survivor I really upsets me because rape isn't something to fantasize about.



    Rape is still unwanted sexual contact, and rape is not something to joke with. More Here...
  • One Night Stand Etiquette

    I had my first one night stand not too long ago.  My first and only.  And, I'm not too proud of it.  But what I don't know is... is there like some unwritten rule about how to act if you ever see that person again?



    I thought I'd never see him again.  But oh god, I did.  I was at a bar with a friend of mine and I see him to my left.  Our eyes met, so I turn more towards my friend and talk to him to avoid him.  A little later, he takes the seat next to me and turns my chair (the bar chair swivels) towards him in the middle of my conversation with my friend and starts talking to me, saying "How long are you going to pretend you don't recognize me?" More Here...
  • Surviving a Long Term Relationship

    Do you have what it takes?



    Long term relationships are funny creatures. They start out with such fire and spirit but over time will evolve into something entirely different. Do you have what it takes to make it last? Can you handle the challenge? More Here...
  • I Can't Be His Everything


    Have you guys ever dated someone who has made you their everything?

    With my current boyfriend, he has already made it clear that I'm his everything. Problem is, he is not mine. More Here...

  • Hypothetical Joe and Jane


    Hypothetically speaking, let's say there's this girl, we'll call her Jane. The boy is Joe. Jane and Joe met each other last year around September and hit it off immediately. They first got together in October and Jane broke up with him a week later, deciding she wasn't ready for a relationship. This started a whole year of Jane and Joe being an on and off couple, most of the breakups being Jane's own doing.

    The last time Jane broke up with Joe was in May. Hypothetically, of course, they went the whole summer without speaking, until Jane saw him at school in September and realized what a huge mistake she'd made. Jane missed Joe like crazy. We're talking in every thought she had, wishing to share every moment of her life with him, wanting to feel his hand in hers and his arms around her, crying herself to sleep over her mistake kind of missed him. Jane talks to Joe about how much she misses him, and Joe decides he needs time to think about whether or not he wants her back.

    A week goes by and Jane doesn't hear anything from Joe. That Friday Jane goes to a party, still missing Joe like crazy. Jane doesn't think Joe will take her back. She knows how she messed up with him and that their relationship was never really that good before, but she knows she's ready for a relationship now and knows things will be different. The only thing is Joe doesn't know that, and no matter how many times Jane tells him this she knows he doesn't believe her. So back to Jane's party. Let's say that hypothetically, she is drinking cause she misses him, and she's a stupid teenager so she doesn't think about the consequences her actions could have in store for her.

    With every shot Jane can feel the drunkness creeping up on her, but she doesn't stop. More Here...

  • Ask Me Anything

    Hello. My name is Blue Skye. And I took the liberty of moving over to datingish for my Ask Me Anything segments.

    Ever since I came onto Xanga, I have watched and saw that there are three times more women blogging about sex and relationships, then there are men. And judging by the reputation we seem to have, I'm surprised that we don't. (There's me, PeaceSeeker, and roxicsunderground.) Because of this, I wrote a blog named "Male Sex Blogging". After writing different blogs such as male's way of trying to curve being horny, this inspired me to go on and ask Xanga or those all around if they had a question about sex and relationships that they want answered from a man's point of view. More Here...

  • The Best Advice is No Advice?

    I feel a lot of people depend on the advice that other people give them; be it magazines, xanga, other blogs, friends.. whatever, but when it comes down to finding the right person for you, you gotta consider the fact that others advice are things that worked for THEM or for a certain percentage of people. How can you act the way a magazine or someone who barely knows you, tells you to?

    When it comes down to finding the person that's right for you, just be you. If the date didn't work out, take it as a good thing because if you pretended to be someone you're not, it wouldn't work out in the long run anyway, cause sooner or later your true colors will show. I think the best advice to give when it comes to dating is to just be you, enjoy the time you're about to spend and the lessons you might learn.

    Agree or Disagree?

Friday, 13 November 2009

  • Sex When Aunt Flo is in Town?

    The other day me and boyfriend I were hanging out. I figured since I had my period I wouldn't be doing anything with him, but then I guess just seeing him really aroused me and I was hornier than usual. I wanted to have sex with him so bad but he turned me down to many times before every time I have my period. He says that its kind of gross but I really don't think so.

    So out of curiosity I just wanted to know what a lot of people (especially guys') opinion about having sex with a girl who has their period. I don't know if my boyfriend is just really picky or is there something wrong with me for wanting to have sex with him during my period.

    What's your opinion and your own experiences with this kind of situation?

  • Will I Ever Have a One Night Stand?



    So it happened. The thing that women always question to themselves... or at-least i know i did? "Will I ever have a one night stand?" That answer finally was answered to me last night. The answer was "yes."

    I would previously write in my blogs that I am nowhere close to the label "SLUT" but I am horny a lot ever sense me and my first love broke up. I asked and just talk to myself on whether or not it was worth seeing some person and just having sex. Cause it came to the point for me that I wouldn't care who I with. (giving the exception that he would be clean in all aspects.) But at the time I had only been with one person at the time, and like I said he was my first love, so I was at the level of people I ever wanted to be with. Yet the thought that as always at the back of my mind was... " Would I be considered a slut? Would I lose my self respect? Will I look in the mirror and despise myself in the end?" More Here...

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