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Thursday, 29 July 2010

Bi-Curious or Bi-Sexual?

aspiring_dreamer@xanga asked in the Datingish advice tab:

I've always been slightly bi-curious. The thought of making out with a girl has always been kind of exciting to me. I'm not sure whether it's because it's not my normal thing or whether it is a physical attraction.

About a month ago, I got drunk at a party and ended up making out with this girl. She's only the second girl I've ever kissed. My boyfriend was at the party with me and he kept an eye on me to make sure things didn't go too far. More Here...
Help! I'm In Love with Someone's GF

Datingish readers, one of your own needs help! jerrywhoo@xanga asked:

We had a thing before her current bf but it ended up being too much too soon, so we went our separate ways. We reconnected about a year or so a go, and we've been good friends ever since, but i still think about her.

Have you ever been in a similar situation? What should I do?
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Just A Quickie: Falling In Love

For some people, falling in love can be a defining moment, like a lightbulb switching on. For others, love seeps into a relationship gradually, until it's fully formed and able to be recognized.

Whether or not you believe that it takes two people days, weeks, months, or maybe even years to fall in love, one thing is for sure: Falling in love is different for everyone.
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The Dressing Room: Car Wash

Askmen.com compiled a list of their top ten date ideas for summer. One date that struck me as odd, but completely genius, was washing your car with your guy. Think about it: bathing suits + wetness + he cleans your car = the perfect date. You get to strut your sexy self, while eying his goods, and you don't have to pay for a detail job. We take the guess work out of picking the right bathing suit, getting your supplies together, and making sure you look great on your date! Sorry, but you'll have to take care of the flirting yourself.
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Man Candy of the Week: Ryan Kwanten

True Blood enthusiasts know him as Jason Stackhouse, the adorable, puppy dog-esque brother who can't keep his pants on. Which we fan greatly appreciate. Usually, I'm not drawn to the body of guys like Ryan Kwanten, preferring lean musicians and thigh-tastic soccer players instead, but I can't deny that his man is a beautiful hunk of muscle. So why is Ryan Kwanten the guy of the week? More Here...

Wednesday, 28 July 2010

My Boyfriend Let Me Beat Him Up

And it was awesome!

Yesterday I went to visit Gray, my fiance. We live 40 minutes apart and lately, every time I go over there I just shut down. I really don't like my life right now. I'm living with my parents at age 23 and I resent them for a lot of things. I have a lot of anger (clearly, read my last few posts) towards the Christian Right and West Michigan in general. I also have a lot of issues with old high school friends trying to keep the flame alive when I want to snuff it out. So I'm upset with many things, mostly myself. More Here...
10 Relationship Rules You Should Break Pt. 1

I randomly came across an online article entitled "10 Marriage Rules You Should Break" written by Denise Schipani for Womensday.com. Going through the author's ten main points, it struck me that most if not all of these can be applied to relationships as well. That said, I'd like to share them with you, fellow Datingish readers.
(Please note that all ten tips are credited to the article's original author)

1) Never go to bed angry. More Here...
Being a Facebook Creeper Improved my First Date

So up until a few days ago, I had never been on a date before. No, I'm not hugely prude or picky, it's just that I've always dated my friends, and our dates didn't really seem like the typical "guy takes girl out for pizza, she gets sauce on her nose and they laugh" sort of scenario.
Understandably, the night before my date, I was terrified. I had seen this guy like, three times, and we barely knew each other. I was way out of my comfort zone. I started thinking about all the horrible things that could go wrong: There are too many to count...
Does Your Guy Have to Be a Perfect 10?

It’s not only books that we shouldn’t judge, it’s men too. Look what happened to Charlotte in Sex and the City. She ended up with a guy who was a cross between Mr. Clean and a naked mole rat. It all comes down to the sparks, the fireworks, the energy between you both, the “je ne sais quoi,” which unfortunately us humans cannot control.

So this whole “who’s your type?” ish is driving me absolutely crazy. More Here...
[CHART] The Realities of Being a Single Guy

Go here to read the full chart. Hilarious! And pretty true. What do you think? [MadAtoms]
Datingish Confessions of the Heart

Feature Confession - Confessions of a Broken Girl by dontstopyourself@xanga

My memory does my heart no justice, as my heart is unfair to you.

I could write all about each small thing you do, and don't notice. Because I know the hidden parts of your face, and I've memorized the way you breathe. I can tell you that the rhythm of your lungs doesn't fit well in mine. I've tried.
But, neither has anyone else's. Except once.
I could try to explain the color of your eyes. Sometimes they're blue, but more often they're green. Each shade presents with a memory of the other. They are always home to a bit of hazel. Small flecks, littered across the chameleon canvas.
I could explain your face for every emotion.
And I could paint you a verbal picture of how it changes every time you look at me.

I could fill pages upon pages with every freckle, every line, every scar. And yet.It would not be poetry.

Don't worry. It's not you. It's me. I'm not sure what it is. I'm not sure where exactly I am fractured.For lack of a better description, let's call it my heart.

I will try.
I will try to love you with each
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piece. More Confessions Here!
Playing Games is Dumb

To play games or not to play games, that is the question! Personally, I hate games. You go on a fantabulous date with a guy but WAIT you have to wait until HE calls YOU. Otherwise you will end up with stage five clinger stamped to your forehead. Click Here to Play