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Does it Matter How it Started?

I've had 3 major, relatively long term ( 1 or 2 years) relationships in my life. I've long realized that...
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The Importance of Sexy Lingerie...

My girlfriend recently sent me some links to lingerie shops and asked for my opinion. One look at those pr...
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What Is The Deal With Leagues?

This is pretty rare. It is not often that you see couples that are unequally beautiful. Of course, there...
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The "No Gift" Pact

The other week, by boyfriend and I were at Target to pick up some supplies and to get off the college camp...
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"I'm 12, I Smoke, I'm Not a Virgin and my Boyfriend is 17"

Recently I've moved to a not so great are in the city. It's one of those areas where hearing a gunshot in t...
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"My Girlfriend, Who Used to Be a Slut"

Times change, people move on, but some things linger in the air like a thin cloud of pungent memory, and mo...
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Tuesday, 09 February 2010

Valentine's Day is Stupid

Perhaps, as someone who is perpetually single, it's my lot in life to fail to understand the beauty of this holiday. Or perhaps it's really as dumb as I think it is.

If you love someone, why the hell do you need to set aside a day to show them that? Shouldn't you be constantly expressing it in little ways all year long? If you need a calendar to remind you that you love someone, you probably don't love them.

The pressure must be awful! You have to get a good gift for the person and it can't just be expensive, you have to actually love them at the same time and your gift has to express that. This would be easy if it was spontaneous.

How adorable would it be if you randomly got a present from your partner because they saw something and it made them think of you? that's cute and sweet and thoughtful. Getting a gift on Valentine's day is anything but. It's more like a chore: you have to do it and you'd better get it right. More Here...
"I'm 12, I Smoke, I'm Not a Virgin and my Boyfriend is 17"

Recently I've moved to a not so great are in the city. It's one of those areas where hearing a gunshot in the middle of the night isn't a strange thing. Where people still think rat tails are cool and where every second house is indicated as a drug dealer's house by the shoes hanging on the phone line.
While just sitting in the car on the way to the shopping centre, I've noticed the amount of girls who look no older than 13 or 14 holding hands or making out with a much, much older guy who are without a doubt sporting a pregnant belly.
I never used to think much of it, but now that I live in the city I notice it more and more. What is society coming to? I mean I know that back in the "old" days, girls were getting married and actually having children at this age, but I was under the impression that things changed. Apparently not.
Tonight while on Facebook, I noticed that many of my friends had joined a "group" which was based on girls such as these. The title: "I'm 12, I smoke, I'm not a virgin and my boyfriend is 17. I'm so proud." More Here...

Monday, 08 February 2010

Musings on Love

Analyzing! It is what separates most humans from animals (at least that's what we fool ourselves into believing)..
It is what we all do when we are head over heals. Yes girls, I am here to tell you that you are not alone. Boys also spend countless time thinking about what she meant when she said so and so. Well, at least I do

I too over analyze my significant others conversation and actions when. Yes girls you are definitely not alone in that dept. I believe that women and men are generally the same when it comes to love.

The things that I find that are universal about love are the following: More Here...
Mr. Ugly Fart: The Date from Hell

So there's this young guy at the next table projecting his completely voice like Tim Gunn last night, saying he was ppppprivileged with the gift of laaaaanguage and then ending the rest of the sentence in French.

His date tried to add something but was quickly cut off by who I have since lovingly nicknamed as Mr. Ugly Fart.
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What Is The Deal With Leagues?

This is pretty rare. It is not often that you see couples that are unequally beautiful. Of course, there are exceptions; an example could be gold diggers.

But seriously. There are leagues which prescribe who is or is not attainable. They are not set in stone, but the majority of relationships are dictated by them. Even if you don't think you believe this, think of when you see someone who you think is very attractive. If, by their side, you see someone who you find to be unworthy of such a creature for lack of equivalent beauty, you might say, "He/she could do so much better..." It is a very common mentality, but why do we think and act like that? When a guy wants to go for a really hot girl, his friends might say, "She is way outta your league!" Sometimes, people will get someone who is "out of their league," but it is rare. More Here...
"My Girlfriend, Who Used to Be a Slut"

Times change, people move on, but some things linger in the air like a thin cloud of pungent memory, and most times you can't smell it, but it's still always there. These things can have an adverse effect on relationships in the long run. I want to share a little anecdote on this note.

So my friend Ronnie has been dating this girl Jenny for about a year now. They went to high school together, and they're now in their senior year of college, but Ron seems to have an issue about his girlfriend's past. The other night we were hanging out together: Ron, Jenny, my friend Suzanna, and I. Jenny and Suzanna grew up together and are the closest of friends. Anyway we were lounging around at my apartment over a few bottles of wine, and the girls got a little tipsy and their conversation a little more adventurous. We were reminiscing about the past and the girls starting going off about their juvenile promiscuity. More Here...
Does it Matter How it Started?

I've had 3 major, relatively long term ( 1 or 2 years) relationships in my life.

I've long realized that they all started out of convenience for the guy, and also a bit for me as well. It wasn't love at first sight, it wasn't 'wow she's hot I want to date her', it wasn't 'oh my god she has an amazing personality, she's so interesting'. Let me illustrate with concrete examples More Here...
The Importance of Sexy Lingerie...

My girlfriend recently sent me some links to lingerie shops and asked for my opinion. One look at those prices and I had to pick up my eyeballs off the floor and hit reset on my brain in order to answer her. More Here...
The "No Gift" Pact

The other week, by boyfriend and I were at Target to pick up some supplies and to get off the college campus for a while. As we rounded one corner with our cart, we came into what might be the most frightening department of a store for a man: the Valentine's Day seasonal display. Pink, red, and white abounded. Even I, who can be a bit of a romantic, was slightly sickened by the sheer overload of items for February 14th.

Now my boyfriend and I have been dating for about 5 months now, though we act like we've been dating much longer because we've been close friends for over a year. I'd been wondering, then, how we would approach our first Valentine's Day together: exchange funny cards? go out to eat? gifts? GIFTS? Were we supposed to buy stuffed animals holding chocolate hearts? I mean, it's not really our style, but when my birthday rolled around, he gave me a card and a gift. At Christmas, we exchanged cards and funny yet useful gifts. Thus, gifts have been the general rule, right? Should this apply to Valentine's Day as well, sappy as it is?

As we pushed the cart quickly past the hundreds of stuffed bears staring at us with beady eyes, he answered this question for me.

"Hey, can we maybe to a...no-gift Valentine's Day?" More Here...
The Things We Later See

It's interesting how people don't truly know what they have until it's gone. When who/what they had leaves it's almost as if they were struck with a bolt of lightning. "What have I done (gasp)?" Suddenly the beauty and splendor of that person is illuminated. All that was aggravating is now tolerated, if not beautiful. While all that was beautiful before is shining in a glory so bright, your mind is blind to all that destroyed what you shared.
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Sunday, 07 February 2010

Forgetting You Love Each Other

Just now, I heard my parents argue for about ten minutes straight. It wasn't even just arguing; they were screaming at each other and throwing back one insult after another. It was pretty brutal, as they both went as far as insulting each others' families and bringing up things that I've never heard them speak of. My mom went as far as bringing up my dad's previous marriage and his other daughter, whom my dad has always blatantly refused to speak about. My dad once again told my mom that she's always starting stuff in the house and that she's the reason for all of the discontent. It's sort of different and harsher in my language, but even by translating, I'm sure you get the jist of it.

My parents haven't had one of these horrible fights in a while, and when they do, it really scares me. My mom even came to my brother and me and asked us who we would go with if they were to divorce. More Here...
Was Tennyson Correct?

The other day I was talking to a girl friend about relationships. She has been in about three serious relationships where she has been in love with the guy, but has had to deal with horrible heartbreaks. I have never been in love. She argued that it is better to have never been in love than to have to deal with heartbreak so many times. I argued that it is better to be in love and then lose it than to never know what the emotion feels like. Even though I don't know how it feels to be heartbroken, I would imagine that the feeling of love outweighs that of heartbreak.

So what do you think, is it better to have loved and lost or to have never loved at all?
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